Hesjustnotthatin2u Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 I just started dating someone about four months ago. In the beginning, we saw each other about three times a week. We live an hour away from each other, but we put in the effort. The past month or so, it's cut back to once a week. He has started his final semester at grad school and he has a lot on his plate right now which he warned me would happen this semester. I'm trying to understand that. But I'd be lying if I said it didn't effect me a little. I look forward all week to that one day on the weekend. When it passes, I feel sad and just start counting down the next day until I can see him again a week later. I should add that I also have a big guard up... always have. I've been hurt a lot, and this is my first relationship in four years. I really care about this guy and I see this going somewhere. In order to let my guard down and to get closer with him, I Feel like that requires more bonding/spending more time together. He has made it clear that that won't happen until May or June. Sometimes when we get together, it feels like so long ago I saw him last, that I still get nervous in the beginning and it takes me some time to warm back up to him again. I need to see him more to create that bond and get closer. I'm also afraid he'll loose interest if I'm only in the picture once a week. Do I buck up and be patient and understanding of his schedule? Or would this be frustrating for you too? I've just never wanted something so bad.
Gloria25 Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 Dude's in school, plus people tend to water down contact and stuff after the RL is established and gets more familiar. I believe seeing someone once a week is normal even without the things you said are going on (him in school, a lot on his plate, the hour distance). When you say you need more time to "bond" then how do you figure that? I mean, of the time you two do spend together, what do you do that you consider is "bonding"? Look, he's entering his final semester at school. Either you buck up and stick it out and see if things change after he's completed his studies or move on to someone who has more time that you desire.
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