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A have feelings for a co worker from my part time job. I've been working at this retail place for three years and through th years we have became friends. Not close friends but enough rapport for witty banter back and forth at work and off work (texting funny memes, inside jokes).

 

Didn't pursue her because she had a boyfriend of 5 years. They broke up two years ago dec 2012. And I initially jumped on the chance (a week after they broke up) to ask her on a date. She said then that it was too soon and that it was a long term relationship. Took that rejection like a man, and I immediately shifted my focus elsewhere. Then again she didn't say she only saw me as a friend, but I digress.They started dating again June 2013.

 

Now back to the present time. Ever since then we remained friends and no problems arose at work. I was able to date other women. But nothing solidified into a long term relationship. My co worker noticed this some time ago and she said that I date a lot. Right then and there I wanted to tell her that it's because I'm in love with her.

 

Now that's the dilemma. I date other women. But I'm unwilling to take it to another notch with them because I feel that my co worker is the one for me. It's like I'm dating for the reason to get over her, instead of finding the right person. I really do want to tell her I feel, because it's getting out of hand. Even the last woman who I was dating even said that she sees right through me and she could

see that I like my co worker. (We text every other day or so).

 

One of these days I really do want to tell her how I feel, regardless of consequences. I mean, she's back together with her boyfriend. I really dont want to do it, but I feel like i have to. I know it's messed up.

 

Or I could just quit my part time job and go no contact with her. My full time job could support me. I did the math. But the extra money is always alluring and I'm putting myself through college. Plus the fact that my boss at the part time job has always accommodated me with the schedule as I have a full time job and interning as I have finished school. I'm afraid I can't have the same accommodation elsewhere. All in or quit? Or both? lmao

 

I feel better already. Putting that in writing and letting some of that energy out. I'm never going to tell my friends about this. I'm too prideful to ask for advice in real life. Anyway, Thanks for the read, any advice is greatly appreciated.

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If she is back together with her BF, she made her choice. Spilling your guts to her will only make work awkward.

 

I'd keep your PT job, limit contact with her & look for another PT job. When you find one, quit this job & put her in your rear view mirror.

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