windows Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 I had been seeing a girl long distance for about 5 months, and we've managed to date quite regularly once I came back to the same country she was in 2 months ago. She recently decided to pull the plug on what we had (which she never wanted to define). Now I'm left with these feelings of breakup from this 'thing' that had no name. (It was a committed relationship by any layman's observation. We dated exclusively and called each other almost every day or every second day. But she didn't want to give it a name.) In any case, we broke up recognising that we were incompatible for each other personality wise, culture wise, and long-term-vision wise. My question is... how soon is it to move on here? We ended things 2 days ago, and I feel like I've already taken stock of my feelings and come to terms with the fact its over. Right now, I just want to find a relationship that works - but I have no idea what's the sensible amount of time to wait before doing anything about it. (I don't have anyone else in mind at the moment though, so I guess I would be hampered in finding someone new regardless.) When should someone start dating again after a not-so serious breakup?
mightycpa Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 When should someone start dating again after a not-so serious breakup? As soon as you're ready. Some people will warn you that you can have a delayed reaction... maybe, but there's also the possibility that if you weren't invested too heavily in either the relationship or the success of the relationship (ie, not riddled with self-doubt) then you're good to go. As a point of comparison, I got dumped from a 5 year relationship, and after feeling pretty bad for 24 hours, I realized I felt relieved. I felt great two days after the breakup, I had not a bit of remorse, regret or anything. I had a date within a couple of weeks and I never looked back. It doesn't sound like you're all broken up by your breakup.
Author windows Posted February 22, 2015 Author Posted February 22, 2015 Thanks - yeah I'm not that broken up. I really did want the relationship to work, but I didn't pour out my whole heart and emotions into it... mostly because she was so reluctant and refused to give a name to the relationship we had. I won't say my emotions are 100% there though. I do wish she would change her mind about the breakup and give us another go (because I thought things were going great) - but I think that probably won't happen and there's no point dwelling on that "what if".
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