soph-walker Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 Good morning all. I have been seeing a guy for about 6 weeks, I have been best friends with his sis for about 12 years and we also went to school/college together. He came round one night and cooked for me- we had a lovely night together, he texted me the next day and told me that he had bumped into his ex in the city we live in whilst he was shopping and that he had this on his mind the night he came round. Reluctantly, I took the chance to be gracious about it and took the 'hint' and told him that I understand and will leave him to it and thanked him for a nice time and also said that I took it that he was seeing his ex again. He replied saying he hadn't even spoken to his ex but it brought up some things in his head and thankyou for understanding, he didn't deny it confirm that he was seeing his ex or in touch with her again. This was about 3/4 weeks ago now, I cannot stop thinking about him and am wanting to text him and I don't know if I should. Do I try and compete against his ex? Thankyou in anticipation guys
clia Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 This was about 3/4 weeks ago now, I cannot stop thinking about him and am wanting to text him and I don't know if I should. Do I try and compete against his ex? Thankyou in anticipation guys No, don't try to compete against his ex. If you haven't heard from him in 3/4 weeks, he isn't not interested in you. Sorry. Do not text him. Move on and find a guy who is interested. 1
mightycpa Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 Here's what I got from your story: Maybe you jumped the gun. Maybe he just happened to see her, and it evoked some memories and a little pain, and he was trying to tell you that was on his mind, because he needed somebody to talk to. You got out in front of this imagined trouble with a great big See yaaaaah!then he probably didn' t know exactly how to react, and tried clumsily to tell you that you'd misunderstood, but you didn't take the opportunity to actually communicate, so he thanked you and put his tail between his legs and beat feet out of there like a scalded dog. So now, you're wondering if you should see whatever developed. Let's say I'm right. You could contact him and say something like Horace, I've been thinking about the last time we spoke, and I'm wondering if I screwed things up over a big misunderstanding. I got the impression that you were telling me that you were interested in your ex, so, not wanting to hear that, I beat you to the punch line. But now I'm replaying that conversation in my head over and over and I'm in doubt. Why did you start talking about that?and see where that conversation goes. Let's say I'm not right, and he was interested in the ex. Then you probably did the right thing. I wasn't there, so you'll have to decide. 1
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