strawberrypancake Posted February 22, 2015 Share Posted February 22, 2015 My new boyfriend is about 5'4", I am 5'6", but since I wear heels most of the time, I am often 6-7 inches taller. It doesn't really bother me, but it seems to bother him. I often wonder if he feels emasculated, he sometimes makes jokes such as "I swore to myself to never date a girl who's taller than me", now that doesn't really sound great to me, does it? It was really weird in the beginning, but I am getting used to it, I just hope he will as well... How do you feel about dating shorter men (or: short guys, how do you feel dating taller women?) Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted February 22, 2015 Share Posted February 22, 2015 I don't date taller women. I swear, they can be physically attractive looking in all other ways, giving me a come hither look and I just have no interest. This includes women that are shorter than me barefeet, but taller in "normal" heels. Insecure? I dunno. But there are plenty of women that are a better height match up for me and I will go for what I want, which includes her being shorter than me in heels. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted February 22, 2015 Share Posted February 22, 2015 I'm 5'11" and I dated a woman who was 6'2" for a few months. She loved her 4" heels, so she generally towered over me. It wasn't a problem for either of us. You should probably ask your boyfriend how he feels about it now that he's had time to get used to the concept. Link to post Share on other sites
Author strawberrypancake Posted February 22, 2015 Author Share Posted February 22, 2015 I don't date taller women. I swear, they can be physically attractive looking in all other ways, giving me a come hither look and I just have no interest. This includes women that are shorter than me barefeet, but taller in "normal" heels. Insecure? I dunno. But there are plenty of women that are a better height match up for me and I will go for what I want, which includes her being shorter than me in heels. Mh... well, I am not considerably tall, I guess I am of average height, most of my female friends are taller than me. And I don't think my boyfriend was considering the height when he fell in love with me... All his past girlfriends were shorter than me, but they were significantly short, for a girl, that is. On our first date I was wearing flats and his quiff made him appear taller, I presume.. . It was only after a few weeks that he admitted to himself that I was taller... that's when it hit, haha. I am laughing, but seriously, I think it might be a real deal breaker for him, but if you love someone, it doesn't really matter how tall or small they are, right? Link to post Share on other sites
LostOnes05 Posted February 22, 2015 Share Posted February 22, 2015 Dating a taller woman wouldn't bother me one bit. I'm your height (without heels haha...and no I'd never) and I wouldn't think twice about dating a woman taller than me. Now with that said I think there are societal constructs in place that tell women that a man of shorter stature is the last option, unless of course he has money or status. Take Tom Cruise for example. Anyway I don't think most men would have an issue with it, if their significant other doesn't make anything of it. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 22, 2015 Share Posted February 22, 2015 As we've said so many times on this forum, it's not the height that's the problem. It's the short guy's insecurity that makes it hard to date them. They're their own worst enemies. You have to find one that is really confident, and then it works out okay. I dated a few super confident shorter guys and the subject never really came up. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author strawberrypancake Posted February 22, 2015 Author Share Posted February 22, 2015 As we've said so many times on this forum, it's not the height that's the problem. It's the short guy's insecurity that makes it hard to date them. They're their own worst enemies. You have to find one that is really confident, and then it works out okay. I dated a few super confident shorter guys and the subject never really came up. Yes I agree that might be it, and my boyfriend is insecure about it, obviously, and that's a bit of a problem. But I think it's just a thing of getting used to. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
oberkeat Posted February 22, 2015 Share Posted February 22, 2015 (edited) As we've said so many times on this forum, it's not the height that's the problem. It's the short guy's insecurity that makes it hard to date them. They're their own worst enemies. You have to find one that is really confident, and then it works out okay. I dated a few super confident shorter guys and the subject never really came up. Hit the nail on the head here. I knew a guy in college who was kind of a shorty. I guess he was no taller than 5'8. But he was highly intelligent, and very confident. He was fun to be around, and he seemed to love life, so everyone loved him, especially the ladies. Edited February 22, 2015 by oberkeat 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 22, 2015 Share Posted February 22, 2015 My husband is only 1 inch taller than me flat foot but I love high heels. He's OK with it but he did ask me to refrain from wearing platforms. Since they aren't comfortable anyway, it was something I was happy to do. I still own a few pairs but try to avoid wearing them when we go out together. Link to post Share on other sites
Gary S Posted February 22, 2015 Share Posted February 22, 2015 I would love to date a glamazon woman taller than me. Just don't expect me to ever pick you up and carry you on the beach, my back probably won't take it But since I am 6' tall, it will probably never happen. Enjoy your short man... short people are winners! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 22, 2015 Share Posted February 22, 2015 Haha, your boyfriend has short man syndrome Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted February 22, 2015 Share Posted February 22, 2015 As we've said so many times on this forum, it's not the height that's the problem. It's the short guy's insecurity that makes it hard to date them. They're their own worst enemies. You have to find one that is really confident, and then it works out okay. I dated a few super confident shorter guys and the subject never really came up. This is exactly it. The other problem is if he expresses those insecurities as he is or brings them out in other ways then he will need constant reassurance and will eventually wear you and the relationship down pretty soon. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted February 22, 2015 Share Posted February 22, 2015 There are insoles that guys can put into their shoes to make them a few inches taller. I've been wearing them for years. There are also nice looking shoes that have a platform and heel in them that can be worn when the woman is wearing her heels. Link to post Share on other sites
CrystalShine2011 Posted February 22, 2015 Share Posted February 22, 2015 I dated a guy 2 inches shorter than me, and it was okay. It bothered me just a tiny bit. Link to post Share on other sites
Mangina Posted February 22, 2015 Share Posted February 22, 2015 As we've said so many times on this forum, it's not the height that's the problem. It's the short guy's insecurity that makes it hard to date them. They're their own worst enemies. You have to find one that is really confident, and then it works out okay. I dated a few super confident shorter guys and the subject never really came up. Preraph did you not have a post a while ago about how a short guy will never date hot chick unless he is extremely successful or else he will marry his equivalent which is the ugly girl with acne or something along those lines? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 22, 2015 Share Posted February 22, 2015 I had a large group of local music friends back in my late 20s and the most popular one of them among the women was a short guy. True, he was very good looking in the face and in a band and everything and had other reasons to be confident. He dated tall reedy women, some of whom no one could understand his attraction to personalitywise or who weren't all that good looking, but that was his type. Link to post Share on other sites
rocketman122 Posted February 22, 2015 Share Posted February 22, 2015 I dated this very pretty blonde who was 179cm and I swore I would never date a women taller than 170cm. I specifically look for their height . nothing over 170cm. but it bothered me a lot. she wore heels one day and crap I felt emasculated. she was hot as shet and im a bodybuilder and im tall myself but damn it killed it for me. besides some other problem that I had to walk away from. but this one slipped through my height limit filter but no more. I want that difference. I want to feel like im holding her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted February 22, 2015 Share Posted February 22, 2015 What it all boils down to, is that each of us - men and women - have our own personal preferences as to what physically attracts us to the opposite gender. That being said, I prefer to date and be in a relationship with a man who's taller than I am. If I'm in heels and we end up seeing eye to eye, that's fine with me. However, I don't prefer to date a guy who's shorter than me and who would be even more shorter than I am when I wear heels whenever we go out. It's just that type of physical preference that I'm attracted to. There was a male member who posted on another thread on this forum that he's looking for a "busty" woman to date and will not date any other woman, no matter how nice she is or how strong the chemistry is between them. He even admitted that his physical preference "sounded shallow", but he couldn't help it and that he stands by his preference because "busty women" are such a "turn on" for him. It doesn't make someone a bad (or shallow) person because of their physical preferences of what attracts them to the opposite gender. It just is what it is. Anyone who would call someone else "shallow" or "too picky" because a man or woman is NOT attracted to some aspect of their physicality is most likely insecure and bitter because the physical aspect of their body that the opposite gender is not attracted to is something that they CANNOT change (or would not WANT to change); even with plastic surgery. I don't consider myself to be a "busty" woman or a woman who is "short" enough for a short man to be attracted to me. And just because certain men would not be attracted to me because I'm NOT a DD cup or because I'm NOT 5'4" doesn't mean that they're shallow or too picky! They like what they like...and I like what I like. And you like what YOU like. Honestly though...I would never date or even be attracted to a man who's way shorter than me. Sorry, but it's just not going to happen. Ever. And you know what? That's OKAY. Because somewhere out there in this HUGE planet that we call earth, there WILL be a woman who IS attracted to very short guys, just as there are guys out there who WOULD be attracted to a woman who is a C cup and who's not "busty". There's someone out there for each of us. . Link to post Share on other sites
Mangina Posted February 22, 2015 Share Posted February 22, 2015 So it has nothing to do with "deserve to be loved." They deserve to be loved if someone finds them lovable. The problem with short guys, as it is with a lot of other guys, is they are never satisfied dating the women who WANT to date them and all feel entitled to move up a few levels in attractiveness. Plenty of short guys end up married, but they're not going to be married to someone way out of their attractiveness level unless they excel at something and are confident. Without confidence and accomplishment, they will probably not get the girl everyone considers beautiful or pretty or girl next door. They will get their female counterpart, the mousey girl, the girl with acne, the socially awkward girl, the unconfident girl, etc. Is it fair? Life isn't fair. You get out of it what you put into it. Being short doesn't make you a good guy. It doesn't mean you'll treat women better. In fact, you're likely to harbor all kinds of built up resentment that will make you treat them worse. Here we go this is what I was talking about. Link to post Share on other sites
NJ123 Posted February 22, 2015 Share Posted February 22, 2015 These threads are so damn depressing. It's like everyday this place beats you over the head about the height issue. It's a shame by how shallow people are about height or else it wouldn't be talked about all the time or at all. Link to post Share on other sites
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