Sweetescape910 Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 (edited) I never thought I would ever get to the position where I feel like I truly am content in my own skin. Part of the reason why is because I was always so focused on my past relationships and so focused on my heart break. If you think you're too focused, you should imagine me. I would ALWAYS google break up advice and ask all of my friends and family questions like "do you think he'll miss me"?. At one point in my life, which was a few months ago, I was so weak and depressed because I thought I would never find somebody. I've gone through so many guys and here are all my friends going out and having relationships. It especially didn't help because I don't have any real girlfriends or a best friend of my own. All I would do is focus on my break ups and feeding into the negative energy, and I LOVED it. I liked being depressed because it was the only thing I could feel. I couldn't feel happy, so I clung onto any emotion I could. What I'm trying to say is, life is way too short to be focused on somebody who's not right for you. And you know it in your heart if they're not right for you, no matter how much you try to deny it to yourself. Realistically, I had all the tools to move on but I just DIDNT know where to start, what step to take, etc. I first suggest that you please please please all stop being so hard on yourselves because you need to be more of a friend to yourself rather than an enemy. Be kind to yourself, take a long bath, get that lotion or perfume you've always wanted to get. Start with YOURSELF. When you're so focused on every little thing surrounding you, it sucks the life and energy out of you. I suggest you ultimately focus on one thing: yourself. And then build upon that. Take a rest day if you need to, but don't fall into the habit of constantly letting yourself be miserable, because thTs EXACTLY what I did. I can say that I spend my Saturday nights in, hanging out with my parents, and I don't mind. I don't mind ordering a burger to go and watching netflix all night, because I'm content. I started going to the gym 4x a week, I hired a personal trainer, I started working way more, and I just let myself be free. I left my comfort zone. You know what's best for you, start taking those steps to succeed. Because you DONT KNOW WHATS GOING TO HAPPEN. Here's a really good example: on a Saturday night, me and my friends were sitting down and I kept venting over and over again to my friend about my ex, asking questions and questions and feeding into the breakup. Just beating a dead horse. Then my sister went outside, and before I knew it, I see her fall face flat to the ground and break out having a seizure. I didn't think of my ex at that moment, I could've given a ****. All I cared about at that moment was rushing to my sister. When life is getting boring and dull, you think that's how it's always going to be. You don't stop and think that you're wasting so much time on negativity. So please, take my advice, see a psychologist, go work out, do what you gotta do to make yourself a better person. I do have my sad moments, but I can say I'm a 7 out of 10 and I don't need a man to define my self worth. This is coming from a girl who got called fat, ugly, prude, and so on. You can read my old threads and see how depressed I was. Anywho, best of luck in your life, and don't forget this is your journey, and no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. OVER AND OUT Edited February 22, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Edited for paragraphs 4
Author Sweetescape910 Posted February 22, 2015 Author Posted February 22, 2015 Thank you. I appreciate that oh, and regarding your quote: yes there is nothing to do to make them come back, but wanting them to miss you is you trying to change them. If somebody doesn't miss you, screw them. There's plenty of fish in the sea!!!!! 1
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