Is it possible to get rejected repeatedly because of being awkward/ acting lame?

[you_can_not_see_me]

As the topic states, do you think its possible to be turned down by girls solely cause you act weird and awkward around her?

 

 

I have mostly held the opinion that dating operates primarily on physical attraction, with personality taking a secondary role.

BUT, my last few attempts at asking girls out have all had this peculiar pattern where I meet a girl I am attracted to, she seems to notice me as well, we keep making prolonged eye contact across the room and then after a while the girl comes over and chats me up and I get this feeling that she is interested, but often because I m shy it takes several weeks to a couple of months for me to finally ask her out. And in contradiction to the earlier hunch that she was interested, the girl always ultimately turns me down.

 

What confuses me is why I keep running into women who seem interested, but I get rejected by them. And I m not talking about mistaking the girl's friendliness for interest. In these cases it seems pretty hard to argue that the girls are just being friendly .

 

So this leaves me with only two possibilities:

- Either I am acting to awkward, or waiting too long and the girls lose interest

-Or I m mistaken and none of these girls were ever interested/attracted.

 

Just to add, I think I look decent and people who have no reason to lie to me have also said I look good. Its even not that uncommon for me spot girls checking me out occasionally, Still all this doesn't match up with how unsuccessful I am with dating. So I don't know what's up

Edited February 22, 2015 by you_can_not_see_me

[rocketman122]

As the topic states, do you think its possible to be turned down by girls solely cause you act weird and awkward around her?

 

 

I have mostly held the opinion that dating operates primarily on physical attraction, with personality taking a secondary role.

BUT, my last few attempts at asking girls out have all had this peculiar pattern where I meet a girl I am attracted to, she seems to notice me as well, we keep making prolonged eye contact across the room and then after a while the girl comes over and chats me up and I get this feeling that she is interested,but often because I m shy it takes several weeks to a couple of months for me to finally ask her out. And in contradiction to the earlier hunch that she was interested, the girl always ultimately turns me down.

What confuses me is why I keep running into women who seem interested, but I get rejected by them. And I m not talking about mistaking the girl's friendliness for interest. In these cases it seems pretty hard to argue that the girls are just being friendly .

 

So this leaves me with only two possibilities:

- Either I am acting to awkward, or waiting too long and the girls lose interest

-Or I m mistaken and none of these girls were ever interested/attracted.

 

Just to add, I think I look decent and people who have no reason to lie to me have also said I look good. Its even not that uncommon for me spot girls checking me out occasionally, Still all this doesn't match up with how unsuccessful I am with dating. So I don't know what's up

 

yep.......

[you_can_not_see_me]

yep.......

yep what????

[Shining One]

He's saying you waited too long. If a woman approaches you and strikes up a conversation, you are to ask her out or get her phone number by the end of that conversation.

[rocketman122]

yep what????

 

as your name says "you_can_not_see_me" you not only have a problem with seeing, you have a problem with comprehending. I bolded your problem above. youre too slow to react. and no she cannot see you. shes long gone.

[Buddhist]

Yes they attracted to you but that doesn't last forever. You really only have 48hrs at most to follow up. The sooner, the better.

[you_can_not_see_me]

You guys for real?! you are telling girls stop liking a guy if he takes too long! Sounds kinda fantastical to me. Surly they would still be somewhat interested even if a guy took a while to ask them out.

[you_can_not_see_me]

as your name says "you_can_not_see_me" you not only have a problem with seeing, you have a problem with comprehending. I bolded your problem above. youre too slow to react. and no she cannot see you. shes long gone.

lol, yeah I totally missed that.

[GemmaUK]

I meet a girl I am attracted to, she seems to notice me as well, we keep making prolonged eye contact across the room and then after a while the girl comes over and chats me up

 

 

Yeah, she has had to do the majority of the running there.

If after that it then takes weeks to ask her out she will have likely become disinterested just a few days after your interaction.

[you_can_not_see_me]

Yeah, she has had to do the majority of the running there.

If after that it then takes weeks to ask her out she will have likely become disinterested just a few days after your interaction.

well I guess it makes sense. That would explain why all the girls turned me down in a very similar fashion.

 

I just find it really hard to make a move, especially early on. And I do have to admit that when a girl is pretty attractive I get intimidated even more.

 

ok I ll try to ask girls out ASAP from now on and see if it changes things.

Edited February 22, 2015 by you_can_not_see_me

[Buddhist]

You guys for real?! you are telling girls stop liking a guy if he takes too long! Sounds kinda fantastical to me. Surly they would still be somewhat interested even if a guy took a while to ask them out.

 

You overestimate hormonal influence. It only lasts a few hours, then more proximity is required in order to get another hit. This is the basis of attraction. Sorry to burst your bubble, you don't remain within her dreams forever more because she cast her eye in your direction. Not without some bonding, and eventually a good round in bed.

[you_can_not_see_me]

Yeah, she has had to do the majority of the running there.

If after that it then takes weeks to ask her out she will have likely become disinterested just a few days after your interaction.

 

You overestimate hormonal influence. It only lasts a few hours, then more proximity is required in order to get another hit. This is the basis of attraction. Sorry to burst your bubble, you don't remain within her dreams forever more because she cast her eye in your direction. Not without some bonding, and eventually a good round in bed.

that makes sense. I guess I was kinda naive. I thought if a girl liked someone she'd still be interested a few weeks later. But I guess women meet a lot of people and if I don't make a move she can become more interested in someone else.