Locust Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 I'm 28 years old and almost 29 years old and never had a girlfriend before so finding this girl online from another country that has interest in me puts a smile on my face. I never thought anyone would like me or find me interesting before I met this person. I been thinking whether if I should consider giving up my US citizenship to move there. My love life and dating life sucks bad in the US and I believe I will not miss the USA. American women I think in general don't like me, don't find me interesting which is why I have turned to internal dating. It seems I meet more people have some interest while in the US its zero I meet. I think its telling me I was born in the wrong country. Being almost nearing 30 years old and never had a girlfriend, I just cannot take it anymore and just no happy here. But after meeting her on international dating website (she is Eastern European) we been talking chatting through email, Skype and Facebook. I'm planning to visit this girl soon ('m looking at $ 3,500) for 3 weeks to visit. I just have to save up some money so I can go take that trip. If you guys were in my position would you travel to another country to meet someone you been talking to online? What steps should I take before taking my trip to go see her?
mortensorchid Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 Guy, before you do anything so drastic, keep a few things in mind. Granted I don't know you, but I have met plenty of others who had the same idea in mind. They no longer do. Why? Because you have cultural differences with people in other countries. You do not understand what that is until you have lived it yourself or done some traveling. Also, in an LDR, remember that if you are not seeing each other at least once a month you are going to do a lot of fantasizing about how perfect that person is or how wonderful it would be to be in that city/country with that person. You will end up in this tremendous rush to jump in the sack when you are together, and that will ultimately end up hurting you because it feeds the fantasy even further. I've been in two LDRs in my lifetime (unless you count my high school sweetheart who went away to college because he was/is two years older than me and I was left behind in high school). One was certainly a fantasy relationship (but he also lived in fantasy land which was another story), the other was done the right way on both of our parts, but it wasn't meant to be. It's your time and cash you are spending for this situation, but remember that LDR in general do not work out.
Author Locust Posted February 22, 2015 Author Posted February 22, 2015 Guy, before you do anything so drastic, keep a few things in mind. Granted I don't know you, but I have met plenty of others who had the same idea in mind. They no longer do. Why? Because you have cultural differences with people in other countries. You do not understand what that is until you have lived it yourself or done some traveling. Also, in an LDR, remember that if you are not seeing each other at least once a month you are going to do a lot of fantasizing about how perfect that person is or how wonderful it would be to be in that city/country with that person. You will end up in this tremendous rush to jump in the sack when you are together, and that will ultimately end up hurting you because it feeds the fantasy even further. I've been in two LDRs in my lifetime (unless you count my high school sweetheart who went away to college because he was/is two years older than me and I was left behind in high school). One was certainly a fantasy relationship (but he also lived in fantasy land which was another story), the other was done the right way on both of our parts, but it wasn't meant to be. It's your time and cash you are spending for this situation, but remember that LDR in general do not work out. I was going have her maybe move to the US. She tells me she likes LA. I do know the culture difference and I'm will to accept those differences and I'm sure she would do the same for me too. I have heard LDR don't work out that much but I think we both want this as much we say we do. I'm just not the guy for American women unfortunately, if I was I would never had look abroad for someone. If I'm not successful with forming relationships abroad I can forget about it here in the US because it won't happen. I'm almost 30 years old and I have never dated tells you a lot of my frustrated experience here I just gave up with American women few years ago and not looking back. I don't want to be deprived love all my life and die wondering what is it like to have a relationship. People do relocate and I'm willing to move even that means giving up my US citizenship.
Buddhist Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 (edited) I have done this. My only advice is to be cautious when dating outside your wealth zone. A lot of people are happy to trade love for different life circumstances. Not saying she is one of th but protect the fact you have a citizenship status many people want. Do not promises to this person while in the honeymoon period and if things go really well, consider moving to her country rather than the other way around. Good luck. Always use condoms. Oh and Google, Dating ----- women, including her country of origin. Read the good, the bad and the ugly before you go. Edited February 22, 2015 by Buddhist
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