bebegal Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 I was supposed to hang out with this guy and he cancelled two days ago saying he couldnt go out b/c his dad is coming into town and staying with him for a couple of weeks. He said well have to find a nite a little later that works for us. [color=darkred]Would you cancel a date if your dad was coming into town? [/color] His dad was just in visiting earlier this month.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 invite the dad out with the both of you for dinner. i mean you have known this dudu awhile, and maybe his dad will get bored....... why not?! then you can discuss the new job you will be taking in SF!
tokyo Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 I definitely wouldn't. It also would depend on why his dad is coming and how long he plans to stay, but if his dad stays for a couple of weeks and he doesn't manage to get a night or two free for you, then I guess, it's a lame excuse.
Author bebegal Posted April 5, 2005 Author Posted April 5, 2005 LMAO lol rubiabonita you are my new best friend you are very funny I hardly doubt he would introduce me to his family let alone/bring me to dinner with his dad. I can only imagine his face if I asked him that.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 Originally posted by bebegal LMAO lol rubiabonita you are my new best friend you are very funny I hardly doubt he would introduce me to his family let alone/bring me to dinner with his dad. I can only imagine his face if I asked him that. that is why you should ask....just to see what he says. BLUNT-ly: it seems that you two are not likely to have a long future anyways, so why not "hold his feet to the flames"
Author bebegal Posted April 5, 2005 Author Posted April 5, 2005 I should email him that I was discussing with my therapist this issue and we came to the conclusion that he should bring me to a dinner with his father. Do u think this will work? j/k
laRubiaBonita Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 just be like: "oh, your dad? wasn't he just here? well, depebding on the length of his stay, matbe we should all go to dinner! that might be fun, i am sure your dad would love company other than just you!" this would all be in a light-hearted, joking-around (but not really) tone.
Author bebegal Posted April 5, 2005 Author Posted April 5, 2005 ohh my dear laRubiaBonita The reason I am joking is because he would never bring me to meet his dad. He is the type that hed have to bee in lvoe with your for like 6 months + to bring you to meet his family He is very private and shy. He would go running so fast if I asked him that. I once asked to meet his sister and he said.. well see in a strange tone and then didnt call me again till she left town. He is a strange one.. and its not like he shoudl be embaressed of me.. we work in the same field, the same religion, about the same age, upbringing etc plus im better looking then he is
JadeStar Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 Drop by his house one night to see if hes dad is really there....just a suggestion. Jade
Author bebegal Posted April 7, 2005 Author Posted April 7, 2005 [color=indigo][font=times new roman]why cant I get over this loser???[/font][/color]
laRubiaBonita Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 Originally posted by bebegal [color=indigo][font=times new roman]why cant I get over this loser???[/font][/color] i dunno? it is one of those illogical things that we torment ourselves with...and why? Be the bigger and better person that you say you are....and not really talking with him while his dad is in town is a great start to never speaking to him again...at least not socially. "its not like he shoudl be embaressed of me.. we work in the same field, the same religion, about the same age, upbringing etc plus im better looking then he is" keep reminding yourself of what a weirdo he is!
blind_otter Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 Maybe I am a weirdo, but I WILL NOT introduce anyone, friends or romantic interests or lovers, to my parents until I have been with them for 6+ months. I am freakish about this sort of thing. I won't bring them around my family...I am very protective of my family. Actually my parents still don't know many of my friends...I was friends with Mr. T for like 5 years before they ever met him. They didn't meet my exhusband until he was proposing to me, and they NEVER met my exBF, who I was with for almost a year.
Author bebegal Posted April 9, 2005 Author Posted April 9, 2005 Blind otter-- Yes, he doesnt have to introduce me to his dad but he is 28 years old,, youd think hed be able to get out of the house while his dad is there.. I mean even on a friday or sat. I really do not think his dad would expect him to drop all of his plans while he was there. I think its a shady excuse. If your dad was in town for 3 weeks.. or mom wouldnt you still make time for a date? He must think im stupid for accepting this as an excuse. Also this email was on sunday and he hasnt contacted me since.. he could at least email to see how Im doing. Is he really going to not contact me a couple weeks then just drop an email or call after no communication for that long. And am I dumb enough that if he does that I will agree to go out wiht him..?
blind_otter Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 I understand that, at least, I understand where you are coming from. If I was visiting my family, most likely it would be me visiting them, in which case I feel obligated unless otherwise instructed by myhost, to hang out with the person who I am visiting. But in any case, not calling or emailing is inexcuseable and that would not fly with me.
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