GravityMan Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 Any relationship you have is going to take some mutual work to keep it healthy, nurtured and happy. Intimate relationships, friendships, family, coworkers, clients, business partners. It's an inevitable byproduct of every individual being unique. That's just life. Even for people who you click VERY well with, you will have situations where you two don't see eye to eye, and may have to compromise or change your views/behavior/actions for the benefit of the relationship. If one or both people aren't willing to put in the effort, then the relationship is in deep trouble. When you click well with someone, it doesn't feel like "work". Woggle's reply was dead on. It's a psychological thing. It's like doing anything else you enjoy...be it your career, raising your cat, playing a sport, volunterering for a good cause, dancing. There's "work" required in all of those, but you don't think of it like that because you're happy and engaged in what you do. Anything feeling like "work" is a very strong sign that you are getting bored and disengaged. The overwhelming majority of romantic relationships will hit at least a few bumps in the road, especially past the "honeymoon" phase. It's important to know if those bumps are due to things that one or both of you can be worked on, or if they're due to incompatibility. Although in most cases, compatibility issues tend to surface early on in the relationship. I'm not a big fan of the OKC questionnaire.
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