Barrsitter Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 I'm 57 years of age and for the past 29 years, raised my three children alone and shunned any long term relationships with men in order to concentrate on my children. Now that my kids are in their 20s, I am enjoying a lovely relationship with a man. Trouble is, he lives a 3 hour plane ride away. My kids are fine with this. My parents are not. They are in their late 80s and have not even said they were happy that I found someone. My mother's only utterance was "you can't move out there until after I'm gone". My dad (who never showed any emotion) has said....nothing. But I feel his disapproval. It's not that I need their approval for what goes on in my life, but it's at the point where I really don't have anything to say to them. We are so different and my life looked nothing like theirs and there is just nothing to say. And frankly, I'm tired of the silence and the disapproval. It's really boring. Any suggestions would help. Thanks
elaine567 Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 I'm 57 years of age and for the past 29 years, raised my three children alone and shunned any long term relationships with men in order to concentrate on my children. Now that my kids are in their 20s, I am enjoying a lovely relationship with a man. Trouble is, he lives a 3 hour plane ride away. My kids are fine with this. My parents are not. They are in their late 80s and have not even said they were happy that I found someone. My mother's only utterance was "you can't move out there until after I'm gone". My dad (who never showed any emotion) has said....nothing. But I feel his disapproval. It's not that I need their approval for what goes on in my life, but it's at the point where I really don't have anything to say to them. We are so different and my life looked nothing like theirs and there is just nothing to say. And frankly, I'm tired of the silence and the disapproval. It's really boring. Any suggestions would help. Thanks Simple. They don't want to lose you. 2
TouchedByViolet Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 you are 57... why do you even care... You might develop cancer tomorrow and be dead in a few months. ENJOY LIFE. It is too short for approval of your parents. 1
wb1988 Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 You can keep them happy and live a lonely life that will only create regret once they are gone, or live your life and have your parents adjust to reality — they've lived the fantasy for 57 years! 1
bathtub-row Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 You can move and live where you want. If they end up needing your help, they'll need to move to accommodate your life. That's what you do when you depend on someone else. They sound very self-centered if you ask me. 1
mrs rubble Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 You have certainly earned the right to enjoy yourself now! If you're happy in the relationship and want to move and trust this man, then move! You don't need your parents permission or approval. I'm sure you'd come back and visit them, and if your kids are still nearby, maybe it's their turn to help look out for their grandparents? 1
Tayla Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 True that its your life and your choice, its probably been that way for at least 30 some years. How blessed to have your family care. Share with them your joys and understand their concerns. Balance can be found. Best wishes with your relationship, Can he not come to you and be apart of your home life? 1
Author Barrsitter Posted February 24, 2015 Author Posted February 24, 2015 all great response everyone! thanks...it helped a lot!
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