Davidcee Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 How can i make my ex forget the negative things about me such as thinking she was talking care of me. thats the reason why we broke off our 4 year relationship. i felt like she wasn't really taking care of me. well i just want to know if she will ever forget the bad things she thinks about me and remember the good. we had the best relationship and everyone thought we would last forever. i never cheated or did anything to break her heart. we did have ups and downs like any other relationship. its been 6 months since we broke up. I do miss her and still think about her. help please.
jus d'orange Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 Have you guys been in contact? Did you end the relationship? Did she? Was it mutual? Was the only reason that she wasn't taking care of you in your eyes? 6 months is quite a bit of time, especially if you guys have been completely broken up and apart all of that time.
mightycpa Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 How can i make my ex forget the negative things about me such as thinking she was talking care of me. thats the reason why we broke off our 4 year relationship. i felt like she wasn't really taking care of me. well i just want to know if she will ever forget the bad things she thinks about me and remember the good. we had the best relationship and everyone thought we would last forever. i never cheated or did anything to break her heart. we did have ups and downs like any other relationship. its been 6 months since we broke up. I do miss her and still think about her. help please. A. You really don't and B. If you do get back together, once you get comfortable again, you'll slip back into your normal selves. She will see in you what she has now already identified. At that point, you're toast again. She will always eventually see that in you is your problem. Might as well skip ahead to the end of the story now.
Author Davidcee Posted February 21, 2015 Author Posted February 21, 2015 no we haven't but in the beginning we did here and there. She was the one who ended the relationship. I felt like she wasn't taking care of me because i would do so many things for her as well and i didn't take it as taking care of her i felt like since being in a long term relationship its my job to motivate her, help her, and to always be there for her. But i never said i feel like I'm taking care of you. Yeah its been a while i tired to talk to her last night but no answer. she tells one of our mutual friends that she still loves me and cares about me but doesn't seem to see anything in the future for us anymore. Then i thought about the times when we did hangout after our break up, every time we would hangout (4 Times) she was back to the person who i fell in love with. she even started to cry because i guess every time we hangout i tend to talk about us and she gets really emotional. She doesn't like to hangout anymore i believe its because she knows she still loves me but doesn't want to get all the feelings back. i mean if she didn't love me anymore then there should be a problem with us talking and stuff. i just want to know how i can get her to remember all the good times we had.
Tarot777 Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 I think she does remember the good times, I'm only on day 6 of a break up. I broke up with him, tried to reconcile and he refused. Ended badly. I have very very little respect for him after the way he treated me and I'm sure he feels the same about me, but I still remember the good times, especially as my anger fades. But I don't want to get back together. When did you really start to miss her? From a guys point of view? I'm asking because I hope he realizes his mistake and comes crawling back, even though I don't want to get back together, just ego, but I'm sure that will fade too.
Author Davidcee Posted February 21, 2015 Author Posted February 21, 2015 I think she does remember the good times, I'm only on day 6 of a break up. I broke up with him, tried to reconcile and he refused. Ended badly. I have very very little respect for him after the way he treated me and I'm sure he feels the same about me, but I still remember the good times, especially as my anger fades. But I don't want to get back together. When did you really start to miss her? From a guys point of view? I'm asking because I hope he realizes his mistake and comes crawling back, even though I don't want to get back together, just ego, but I'm sure that will fade too. To be honest i started to miss her once i realized that things weren't the same. This took me about almost 2 months to realize. Everything just didn't seem like nothing i pictured when we were together. I always knew i had someone special but i know i could of appreciated things just a little more. If he has it realized it yet he will soon unless he didn't really love you then thats another story. why don't you want to get back together with him? and when do you think about the good times you guys had?
Tarot777 Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 To be honest i started to miss her once i realized that things weren't the same. This took me about almost 2 months to realize. Everything just didn't seem like nothing i pictured when we were together. I always knew i had someone special but i know i could of appreciated things just a little more. If he has it realized it yet he will soon unless he didn't really love you then thats another story. why don't you want to get back together with him? and when do you think about the good times you guys had? I think he really did love me, but he's very stubborn and kinda mean, so even if he does miss me I doubt he'll contact me, I think him blocking me, ignoring and refusing to take me back was to "teach me a lesson" he does this to people, friends, co workers, ex girlfriends etc. He "punishes" them. The reason I won't take him back is because he refuses to apologize even when he's horrible, his response is usually something like " you made me" " I was mad". Plus he's very self absorbed, I know nothing will change because he won't admit wrong, his pride prevents him from growing as a person. Plus he's too mean for me, I really don't like that. I go back and forth between anger and thinking about the good times. I think more about the good times each day though. I think about him the most when other guys are interested in me though, I don't want them and kinda just miss him. Its only been 6 days no contact, but 3 weeks since I've seen him and broke up with him, he refused me 6 days ago. Do you mean after two months you started to realize that things weren't how you pictured they would be if you broke up?
Author Davidcee Posted February 22, 2015 Author Posted February 22, 2015 I think he really did love me, but he's very stubborn and kinda mean, so even if he does miss me I doubt he'll contact me, I think him blocking me, ignoring and refusing to take me back was to "teach me a lesson" he does this to people, friends, co workers, ex girlfriends etc. He "punishes" them. The reason I won't take him back is because he refuses to apologize even when he's horrible, his response is usually something like " you made me" " I was mad". Plus he's very self absorbed, I know nothing will change because he won't admit wrong, his pride prevents him from growing as a person. Plus he's too mean for me, I really don't like that. I go back and forth between anger and thinking about the good times. I think more about the good times each day though. I think about him the most when other guys are interested in me though, I don't want them and kinda just miss him. Its only been 6 days no contact, but 3 weeks since I've seen him and broke up with him, he refused me 6 days ago. Do you mean after two months you started to realize that things weren't how you pictured they would be if you broke up? oh okay i understand where you're coming from and what i mean by that is that when we were together we talked about never breaking up and about how we were always going to stay together. but when we broke up everything we talked about seemed like they were just words to her. she wasn't showing that she wanted me and only me in her life anymore. the thing that makes me angry is that i was never the type of guy that falls in love. I was always a ladies man but when i met her i saw something different in her that separated her from the rest of the girls. I wasn't going to get with her but i gave it a chance and we fell in love. Now I'm here heart broken and I'm the one trying to get her back when i didnt really do anything at all but have her think she was taking care of me.
Tarot777 Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 We were the same, swore we would always be together not matter what we had to go through, i think he felt the same when I broke up with him, like I was giving up and thats why he's so mad, like I don't get to dump him when get him back just because I felt like it. I just couldn't take it anymore. I'm the same as you, been kinda a player. What are you doing since the breakup? Are you sitting around moping or are you getting out etc? Working out, getting back into new hobbies? My advice would be to go the gym, go on a few dates, get yourself looking super hot and fun. That would drive me nuts, I'd be panting and licking my lips if I saw him again and he was looking super fine and happy. Especially if he said sorry and acted all cool and chilled out. But he won't haha, so onward and upward for me.
privategal Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 Keep giving it time. It might not be her you want but a partner. Your ego just might be bruised. Go easy on yourself, take your time and make some changes whether thars taking a bew course, getting into hiking, rock climbing, martial arts, music, painting...give her something different to come back to, IF she comes back, show her a side she doesn't know. Get in shape, maybe a better job, change your looks. Basically keep it moving and read the nc guide at the top and really consider it. Be a mystery...who knows...when she comes back around...you might not be interested anymore cause you put all that energy into YOU! I also always think...clean your room, rearrange it, get new bedding, get new mental energy and space around you. Even music...find new stuff. Good luck....noooo contact!! 1
Author Davidcee Posted February 24, 2015 Author Posted February 24, 2015 We were the same, swore we would always be together not matter what we had to go through, i think he felt the same when I broke up with him, like I was giving up and thats why he's so mad, like I don't get to dump him when get him back just because I felt like it. I just couldn't take it anymore. I'm the same as you, been kinda a player. What are you doing since the breakup? Are you sitting around moping or are you getting out etc? Working out, getting back into new hobbies? My advice would be to go the gym, go on a few dates, get yourself looking super hot and fun. That would drive me nuts, I'd be panting and licking my lips if I saw him again and he was looking super fine and happy. Especially if he said sorry and acted all cool and chilled out. But he won't haha, so onward and upward for me. yaeah i been going to the gym and trying to hangout with my friends and I'm still in school so that helps me not really think about her. she told me yesterday that she has moved on and also told me good luck in life. it hurt so much because i got it unexpectedly, and i just still can't believe this is happening to me. because i have friends that are still with they're partners since high school and me and her were high school sweet hearts but i guess that doesn't really matter to her. what would make you miss your ex and just would completely want him back?
quattrob Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 yaeah i been going to the gym and trying to hangout with my friends and I'm still in school so that helps me not really think about her. she told me yesterday that she has moved on and also told me good luck in life. it hurt so much because i got it unexpectedly, and i just still can't believe this is happening to me. because i have friends that are still with they're partners since high school and me and her were high school sweet hearts but i guess that doesn't really matter to her. what would make you miss your ex and just would completely want him back? David, it's been 6 months now since the break up. Let her go, she doesn't want to be with you anymore. She made it clear to you. Stop trying to win her back. If she wanted to come back to you, she'll do that without you doing anything. It's all up to her. I know it sucks and it hurts but you need to accept that she is gone and move on. This is the only way for her to have any chance to see you in a different light. Alot of emotional girls tend to feel nostalgia when they are around their ex's and they start to feel the old comfort feelings and they tear up. This doesn't mean they want to get back with you, it just means they miss that feeling and those good times. They are also probably sad and miss you but again that doesn't mean they want to be with you. Anyways please try to move on, she made it clear to you that she doesn't see you that way anymore. 2
Toodaloo Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 what would make you miss your ex and just would completely want him back? David. You can not salvage this one. She says she was taking care of you, you say not. Ergo nothing would change if you got back together and it would all end the same way. Do not ring her. Do not email. Do not check her out on facebook/ twitter etc Do leave her alone Do take a note and perhaps think of things that you could do in the future so that your future beau's don't feel this way. My ex was a big baby and I looked after him. After a week of him moving out I did not miss him. Its now almost a year and guess what... I still don't miss him. Its a relief not having him around! She probably feels this way so do yourself a favor, have some respect for yourself and move on.
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