Dragonfly88 Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 I am not sure where else to put this but I would like maybe a kind of answer to a few of my questions. First off I am really curious to know how many people (Please make it clear if you are Male or Female) think that cybersex is really cheating? If it is why is it and if it isn't once again why? Second of all I am wondering how many people watch porn and if you watch it do you collect it as well? If so how big is that collection? And do you hide that you have it or view it or even enjoy porn from your significant other? Another thing I am wondering how many of you keep your passwords a secret from your significant other? And what are the passwords for and is it a complete lock out from anything technological or is it just you completely trust one another? I know this is a lot to put in one post but I didn’t really want to be a serial poster.
preraph Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 Cybersex is cheating. Watching porn enough that it jeopardizes your real life relationship with your woman is addiction. Collecting porn is addiction. If you don't want to share your life with your mate, then divorce. If you are more interested in porn and cybersex than your mate, divorce. If you aren't willing to give these things up for your relationship, you are not marriage material.
Author Dragonfly88 Posted February 21, 2015 Author Posted February 21, 2015 So if the couple both enjoy porn, and they do it as a couples activity they should divorce? Or if one is on a business trip and orders one from hotel service they are cheating? Or having a subscription to Playboy and collecting them is horrible? I see you use the word Woman? Does that mean it only goes one way? That a girl watching porn and having a porn problem just doesn't exist?
autumnnight Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 So if the couple both enjoy porn, and they do it as a couples activity they should divorce? Or if one is on a business trip and orders one from hotel service they are cheating? Or having a subscription to Playboy and collecting them is horrible? I see you use the word Woman? Does that mean it only goes one way? That a girl watching porn and having a porn problem just doesn't exist? I'm not sure what post you read, but I don't think he said any of that. If your use of porn negatively affects your actual real life relationship, that is a problem. If you are sharing any type of sexual intimacy with another actual person besides your spouse, that is cheating. These are not difficult concepts. So yes, if you are using porn instead of tending your relationship, and if you are cybering people other than your spouse, you have a problem and you are cheating. 2
StanMusial Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 So if the couple both enjoy porn, and they do it as a couples activity they should divorce? Or if one is on a business trip and orders one from hotel service they are cheating? Or having a subscription to Playboy and collecting them is horrible? I see you use the word Woman? Does that mean it only goes one way? That a girl watching porn and having a porn problem just doesn't exist? I don't really care about porn. Most of the girls I know don't really like porn. It was never an issue either way. I can understand why women would not like porn or prostitution or any of that stuff. I've never did cybersex, it seems kind of dumb but I would also say it's cheating.
Mrs. John Adams Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 Autumn skillfully summed it up quite nicely
toolforgrowth Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 I am not sure where else to put this but I would like maybe a kind of answer to a few of my questions. First off I am really curious to know how many people (Please make it clear if you are Male or Female) think that cybersex is really cheating? If it is why is it and if it isn't once again why? I am a male. Yes I think it's cheating, because you are engaging in sexual activity with a person other than your SO. My definition of cybersex involves an actual live human being on the other end that you are sexually interacting with, as opposed to a recorded video of a person or people you will never interact with. Second of all I am wondering how many people watch porn and if you watch it do you collect it as well? If so how big is that collection? And do you hide that you have it or view it or even enjoy porn from your significant other? I watch porn. I don't "collect" it in the sense I buy DVD's, but I do have an extensive online collection. How big? Maybe a couple hundred bookmarked links of various clips. I have always been up front with my GF that I watch and masturbate to porn when she is not around, but we have not watched it together yet. Another thing I am wondering how many of you keep your passwords a secret from your significant other? And what are the passwords for and is it a complete lock out from anything technological or is it just you completely trust one another? I do not keep my passwords a secret from my GF. She asks for the passwords to my wi-fi and my laptop so she can watch Netflix when she stays over, and I gave them to her without reservation. For me personally, watching porn and engaging in cybersex are not the same thing, as cybersex must include actual interaction between two live humans...that interaction simply happens to be occurring over the internet rather than in person. Watching porn, however, is watching a video of something that already happened; you are not interacting directly with the people on the screen.
Author Dragonfly88 Posted February 22, 2015 Author Posted February 22, 2015 I am aware that Cybersex and Porn are not the same thing. It's why they were different questions. Thank you for answering ToolforGrowth. This is the kind of insight I was looking for not necessarily what people thought of it when they themselves were not doing it but how they do it in their own lives.
Author Dragonfly88 Posted February 22, 2015 Author Posted February 22, 2015 I'm not sure what post you read, but I don't think he said any of that. If your use of porn negatively affects your actual real life relationship, that is a problem. If you are sharing any type of sexual intimacy with another actual person besides your spouse, that is cheating. These are not difficult concepts. So yes, if you are using porn instead of tending your relationship, and if you are cybering people other than your spouse, you have a problem and you are cheating. Who ever said it was me?... These are things that I wonder about because you google for the answer and half says it's fine because no STD's no actual physical contact no this and no that where the other half points out that your emotionally involved with someone when you begin that activity. Half the stuff says if you have ever seen a porn more then once you may be addicted the other half says that you have to lose your job watching porn before it's an addiction. I feel like the numbers out there for statistics on what people actually do with porn, cybersexing and shearing passwords with their significant other are too inconsistent to really trust them. So I asked it here to see what peoples habits are and gain insight in general, not to see if I should continue on with my relationship. The reason I want insight, I only know two people who don't watch porn and most of the girls think cybersex is cheating while most of the guys I know are actually doing it behind their girlfriends back, the pass word thing, I got into a fight with my significant other because I was locked out of the computer with the idea that if I wanted in the computer I was the one with the trust issues.
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