Gloria25 Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 I know everywhere has "one" or maybe "two" of them... But, what I hate is when you're just doing your job and you "somehow" are in their way and they just start turning their sights on you.... I won't use a current example cuz I don't know who frequents here... But, using a previous example... I was a secretary and this other chick was a secretary. But, I guess she wanted my job - to pretty much be secretary for both guys. One day, the furniture for my boss came in and I came to find her in his office unpacking it and "arranging" it as she saw fit. When I got upset, she told me that "all she wanted to do was help". On another occasion, I was away from my desk and told her where I was going...Someone came looking for me and she told them she didn't know where I was. So, from that point on, I bought a small dry-erase board and when I was away, would put it against my computer screen to say where I was and about what time I'd return. I can't stand butt kissers - who the only way they can make it anywhere is to schmooze their noses in people's behinds - but, what makes it worse is when you don't care about what they're doing, you're just trying to do your job and they start trying to f-with your job so they can have no one in the way to schmooze the boss.
preraph Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 Oh, I agree with you. And the sad thing is male bosses love the butt kissing. I had a real bad one of these decades ago who stroked the higher-up male egos while literally doing no work and pretty much ruined my relationship with a couple of them and mine with them for believing her because she was a big liar. She was new and I had been there 8 years and she was tasked with doing some menial clerical chore for me, which was not usual as usually she just helped my boss. So there was a timeline on this task and when I came looking for the finished work so I could proceed, she told the boss I never gave it to her, which was an outright lie. From then on, I would have a witness discreetly nearby anytime I had to give her work. But they men didn't care. They loved the sucking up and didn't care if it was fair or not. I went all the way to the top about it and got it stopped, but by then the damage had already been done with the vp who was also new and never liked me to begin with, even though he didn't know me at all. 1
Author Gloria25 Posted February 21, 2015 Author Posted February 21, 2015 Oh, I agree with you. And the sad thing is male bosses love the butt kissing. I had a real bad one of these decades ago who stroked the higher-up male egos while literally doing no work and pretty much ruined my relationship with a couple of them and mine with them for believing her because she was a big liar. She was new and I had been there 8 years and she was tasked with doing some menial clerical chore for me, which was not usual as usually she just helped my boss. So there was a timeline on this task and when I came looking for the finished work so I could proceed, she told the boss I never gave it to her, which was an outright lie. From then on, I would have a witness discreetly nearby anytime I had to give her work. But they men didn't care. They loved the sucking up and didn't care if it was fair or not. I went all the way to the top about it and got it stopped, but by then the damage had already been done with the vp who was also new and never liked me to begin with, even though he didn't know me at all. Well, I don't think it's gender specific... Seems like manager and supervisor positions are always filled by people who don't necessarily have a particular skill/ability - but who are "yes" people. And, cuz they have nothing to offer but to be a "yes" person - they have low self-worth and crave on people smooching their sorry behinds. Funny thing is the people smooching their behinds also have no skills/abilities to offer either - hence, their need to climb the ladder by brown-nosing. 1
Tayla Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 Our company will write a person up who says "NO". They write it up as being belligerent and non conforming to directives from management. The Only time that a staff member can say NO is with a medical excuse or when it cross's the federal lines for employee rights. I would welcome a person who is helpful and has the interest of the company at heart. Most of my co-worker will only help a person if their skirt is short or their IQ is matched by their shoe size. Luckily Gloria you have a sense of this co workers antics and have taken action to alleviate any misunderstandings. 1
ufo8mycat Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 Our company will write a person up who says "NO". They write it up as being belligerent and non conforming to directives from management. The Only time that a staff member can say NO is with a medical excuse or when it cross's the federal lines for employee rights. Although it wasn't something to be written up - in my line of work being a yes person means you get put on projects. You do a good job, you get more projects offered to you. This means that you meet all your KPIs and get a big fat bonus. Say no and no one asks you again. Then your usually looking for another job in a month. There is no such thing as "too busy" in my line of work. I am a yes person and it has been critical to my career success. I say yes and then I deliver. Bosses and clients love it. Who wouldn't? I don't have low self worth but I am a servant leader. I lead by making others look awesome. It is what I do best. I never really thought of it as arse kissing. Although others may -but it has given me amazing relationships which I have little concern of leveraging when appropriate. Give me can do over not my job any day. 1
Author Gloria25 Posted February 22, 2015 Author Posted February 22, 2015 Our company will write a person up who says "NO". They write it up as being belligerent and non conforming to directives from management. The Only time that a staff member can say NO is with a medical excuse or when it cross's the federal lines for employee rights. I would welcome a person who is helpful and has the interest of the company at heart. Most of my co-worker will only help a person if their skirt is short or their IQ is matched by their shoe size. Luckily Gloria you have a sense of this co workers antics and have taken action to alleviate any misunderstandings. Noooo, when I refer to a "yes" person - I don't mean someone who is a hard worker, team player and/or enthusiastic about taking on stuff. To me a "yes" person is all about pleasing their boss, getting their ratings - all on the sacrifices/backs of others. I mean, I had one manager come to us and instead of saying something like "I need you guys, I appreciate what you do, and there's incentives for performance" - this fool actually had the nerve to say that "her" performance review was rolling around and we need to work harder cuz her review depended on how well her boss' numbers were....geesh, talk about having some tact here. I mean, she couldn't make it anymore clearer that she could care less about us and that we were there to make her look good.
bubbaganoosh Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 Knew a guy who worked in construction with a first class ass kisser. Not only a kiss up but had a really bad attitude and thought he was a know it all. He used to jump all over my buddy and pretty much make his day miserable until one bitter cold day. He had a pick up truck with a diesel engine in it and this was back in the early 90's and this butt kisser used to park his truck by a outlet and plug an electric dip stick in to keep his engine warm or that truck wouldn't start. Circuit got tripped and he had a real cold engine when the day was over. Butt kisser tried to start his truck and it would not turn over and he flagged down my buddy who was pulling out and asked him for a ride home since they lived fairly close. My buddy did the right thing. He told the guy to kiss his ass and let him know that he was a ass kissing piece of garbage and told him to walk and he left him there.
pink_sugar Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 I worked with someone like that once. She kissed her way up to the corporate ladder and was in cahoots with the manager. I eventually quit that job as I felt as if I was being set up to fail.
nomadic_butterfly Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 Omg thanks for the hearty laugh! Made me cry tears of laughter! Lol I would never say that though as I wouldn't want it getting reported and getting in trouble and having people look at me differently (have a good reputation for having the best attitude aka poker face) but I will live vicariously though your friend! Bwahahahaha Knew a guy who worked in construction with a first class ass kisser. Not only a kiss up but had a really bad attitude and thought he was a know it all. He used to jump all over my buddy and pretty much make his day miserable until one bitter cold day. He had a pick up truck with a diesel engine in it and this was back in the early 90's and this butt kisser used to park his truck by a outlet and plug an electric dip stick in to keep his engine warm or that truck wouldn't start. Circuit got tripped and he had a real cold engine when the day was over. Butt kisser tried to start his truck and it would not turn over and he flagged down my buddy who was pulling out and asked him for a ride home since they lived fairly close. My buddy did the right thing. He told the guy to kiss his ass and let him know that he was a ass kissing piece of garbage and told him to walk and he left him there.
nomadic_butterfly Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 Lol are you sure we don't work for the same company? Lol butt kissers are annoying to those who rely purely on merit but sometimes you've got to play the game! Lol I give sincere complements but my work precedes me so I refuse to be disingenuous! I'd prefer recognition from an astute person anyway. Both the kisser and doting kissee clearly have much insecurity! I went through extremely similar situations and I just continued being nice and being me. I can't change or control anyone but myself. Let it challenge you to bring your A game and tune it out. You are there at work to work so as long as its not a hostile work environment, let it go. If she is incompetent it will eventually surface!
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