When is it time to move on??

[Reverb]

Got a question for u fine folks with all your wisdom. I first off wanna say by reading your post it gives me hope that my life can recover from the worst thing in my life and that of course just like everyone else here is getting dumped. If u decide to read this im going to explaint he best i can without rambling on cause of course there is alot to tell but ill try to keep it a decent length. After 6 years of being with the person i wanted to be with for the rest of my life dumps me because i wasnt the most pleasent to her. I owuld get pist at her for the dumbest things and a major part of it was cause of stress from work. Well shortly after she broke it off which in fact wasnt the most pleasent she said its its for sure over and she nevers wants back with me and i made her so upset. After that happened my life went down the tubes. 3 months before we broke up I signed to get her a car cause her credit was to bad to get one. The reason i did cause we were engaged and i thought we would be together forever. Well after the break up she dumps this car onto me which no way i could afford cause it was a realy expensive car and i already had a expensive car i was paying for so i had to do the unthinkable, file for bankruptcy.

 

 

Now if the break up wasnt already hard enought now my financial life is over. ONe thign i am confused about is why is it when u get mad about something your partner did she says "why are u mad i thought everything was going great" but when she gets pist at u she says "u just dont see it i havent been happy for awhile" i mean doesnt make alot of sense. But anyways me and this girl were each others first and all that good stuff so obvsiouly there is strong emotional attachment from that one thign alone. But the crappy thig is we are friends with all the same people and after we broke up not any of my friends talk to me anymroe cause they think im this big ahole. I mean seriously i showed this girl so much love and it so weird cause not only 5 months before we broke up she was telling me and our friends how lucky she was to have me and she couldnt wait to get married. So between no gf, no friends, and filing for bankruptcy things just more or less suck and i dont think life could get any worse.

 

Now to my main question. Shorty after we broke up, im talking like a couple weeks i was starting to talk to this girl and we hooked up. I know its total rebound cause all i do is think about my ex when im not with her and really dont give her alot of thought when im not around her. This new girl says im the most incredible guy she has met in years and so happy with me. See this is the problem cause i hear to move on is find someone new and go out and have a good time but im so alone right now and this girl makes me feal so special and actually gives me mroe attention then my ex did. I suppose what im wondering is I know this relationship could work but i see myself taking out old fealings out on this new girl and she doesnt deserve this but another thing is im scared to end it and her find someone new. I think i have to many worries cause of what has happened in the past.

 

If anyone reads this or not I guess its helps to jsut write it. So thanks if u post a response, i would love someone response cause i know no one that i can relate to and a therapy doesnt really help cause that person doesnt relate very well. Whats funny is when i was in therapy i asked the doc what she would do if your loved one left u one night and u never talked to her agian and all the finicial burdons left on you, she was kinda speechless.

[Marshbear]

life does suck. I think your problem is that you are scared to get involved because you still have feelings for your ex and you also have resentment for what she did to you. Women can be bit**es without regard for your feelings. She probably thought it was amusing to stick you with the car payment because she felt venticated in her own mind.

 

Friends will take a side. I would say that they must be her friends because they left you out to dry. If you continue to see them they will just continue to take her side so you need to take a break from them as well as her. The rule of NC probably would be best for you at this point.

 

I would tell your new friend the situation that you are unsure now and you don't want to hurt her by using her when you still are not over your other relationship.

If she really sees you as wonderful she will wait until you are ready to fully comitt yourself to her. I hope things work out for you as to the restoring of your finances and your self esteem...