unbeknown Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 Hey All - ranted on a bit so bloded the main bits So a common theme for me seems to be finding myself getting hung up on everyone I meet which I think is mainly down to lack of choice. I'd say I'm fairly good looking, dress exceptionally well, have a really cool job and hobbies but the majority of the girls where I live aren't my type - I prefer girls who like good music and dress Indie. I do all my meeting through online dating and I've actually ran out of choices here. The idea of approaching someone in the street seems alien to me. So anyway here goes my latest failing. Been speaking to this girl (21, I'm 24) for a very long time. I think we first met on a dating site 10 months ago and I know a lot of people will say that's too long without a date and perhaps they're right but she explained to me that she suffers from really bad anxiety. Each time I've invited her out she's turned it down because she says she is too scared but does really really want to meet me. I've given her the benefit of the doubt and not really thought too much in to it and carried on with my life whilst texting her. Out of all the people I've ever texted she has been the most responsive ever. We've text back and forth all day with immediate replies for the whole 10 months. Not a single day not texting and the conversation has been incredibly interesting. I feel because of this, even though we haven't met, she's still been a sort of constant in my life. I had no intense feelings at this point. After previous infatuations I've learned to try not put anyone on a pedestal, especially someone I've never met but since she went back to Uni (she lives an hour away from me for Uni and about two hours away from me to her home address) she's become distant. Then last week she didn't reply for 3 days. Might not seem like a big deal but every single day with immediate replies for 10 months and then suddenly nothing. We use Whatsapp (a phone app for texting) so I know when she was last online and has read my messages. A week before this she suggested we actually go on a double date so she'd feel more relaxed to which I agreed but was sadly busy. So with still no reply I sent a follow up text to see if her friend and herself would be free next week to double date. She replied saying she'd check with them but once again it's been 4 days now since hearing from her after my last message. I sense the worst that she's doing a childish 'Fade Out' but with her not replying I've become incredibly infatuated with her - we always want what we can't have. I've listed her negatives in my mind: She takes drugs on the weekends, quite the party girl, she has a really bad/large lyric tattoo on her arm that she regrets, she hasn't met up with me in 10 months, now she's not replying. Yet none of them bother me and it's all pathetic really. I've built up an idea in my head and I need to stop doing this. Part of me always believed that she may actually meet up with me one day but I guess I've just been lying to myself. I guess I'm just posting this to get it all off my chest but if anyone has any advice for how not to get so hung up on girls all the time, especially when dating multiple people isn't really feasible, that'd be great! Thanks.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 uhhh why are you wasting time with a girl who doesn't want to meet? next You're setting yourself up to fail, there is a world full of women, don't fixate on one person 1
Author unbeknown Posted February 22, 2015 Author Posted February 22, 2015 It's what I keep trying to tell myself. The choices are limited here though. Throughout my dating history I've never really had more than one girl texting me. It takes me a while to find someone I like and then I date them for a while and when it stops there seems to be no girls for a while until one rarity comes along. This is all from dating online too by the way. I feel if I could get off online and in to real life meets I would have more choice but I can't get my head around day time appraoching.
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