Superman2024 Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 I just accomplished what I thought was impossible with a girl I had been talking with on Facebook. Long story short, she hadn't answered any of my messages for the last 10 months because I had said something that upset her back then. I recently mailed her a handwritten letter with a small gift and finally got a nice response from her. She thought the letter and gift was sweet. I did mention taking her out sometime and gave her my number. She said she was okay being friends and thought that's all we would ever be. I've always liked her and she knows it, but she's only ever viewed me as a friend since she was already seeing someone when I started messaging her before. She is single now and we've never met in person, so that's an advantage for me. Overall I'm pretty happy with her response since I wasn't sure she even liked me enough to be friends. In order to try and move things forward given her friend comment, I was going to see if she would be open to going out as friends first and seeing how things naturally developed. If we went out I'd try and gradually escalate things. I overcame one huge hurdle by getting communication going again and now I have to overcome the friend zone hurdle, lol. I do think there's a chance here if I play my cards right. Any other suggestions?
Gaeta Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 She said she was okay being friends and thought that's all we would ever be. What part of this you don't fully understand? She thanked you for the letter and gift because she felt bad ignoring you after you put in all that effort. Nothing more.
Author Superman2024 Posted February 21, 2015 Author Posted February 21, 2015 I think I do understand what she's saying. She doesn't see me in a romantic way. I'm not overly surprised either considering she only knows me from FB. That's why I think it's worth us meeting, even if she only has friendship in mind. The game can totally change after you meet someone.
GemmaUK Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 What did you say all those months ago to get no responses? It sounds to me like she felt obliged to respond to the letter and gift and did so out of politeness.
Author Superman2024 Posted February 21, 2015 Author Posted February 21, 2015 It was related to the relationship she was in at the time and it upset her. I apologized at the time but I didn't hear back from her until I just sent this letter. It was more about reconciliation than a love letter, though there were elements of both. My goal was to get us talking again, so it seems I accomplished this. I'm happy we're on good terms again. Given the situation after 10 months of silence I would've been surprised had she just agreed to date me, so it'll be a process.
Gaeta Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 I am ready to bet she is not going to meet you. When she said it's ok to be friends she meant on FB. Nothing more.
preraph Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 You may only know her on Facebook, but presumably she has seen your photo and now she knows something about you on Facebook as a person, and that did not go well. She couldn't have been clearer that you are never going to be anything more than a friend, and I doubt that even happens except on Facebook. If she has seen your photo and she has gotten really mad at you already and said it could be friends but that is all, then you are not going to grow on her in a romantic way. That's probably what made her mad to begin with.
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