CharlieFox Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 So I will try to be simple: I met a girl recently, she is a friend of one of the girls from my company of classmates and friends I use to go out with. I added her on Facebook and we started talking for the last week. She's very pretty, as a person she seems confident and maybe potentially a bit intimidating for me, but I like her. I invited her out and she said yes, so we're meeting next week at some point. The thing is, I don't usually go on dates like this; I mean, usually in my past first kisses with girls never happened during dates, but on more different circumstances, and it kinda "happened" naturally, it wasn't like "Oh, I should go for the kiss now". This girl, as I mentioned, is very attractive and the kind of girl that a lot of guys have probably asked out in the past (and I am still surprised she is single actually), so maybe she has more experience with dating than me, which worries me a bit. So my question is, is it weird to kiss the girl at the end of the first date? I know I should let things unfold naturally, but I don't want to force it if it doesn't feel right; so how should I proceed at the end of the date if it's too weird to kiss her; should I just hug her, or I dunno... As I said I am very bad at this, so please don't laugh at me; if you have any suggestions about how I should proceed with being physical in some way with her, please give me an advice.
d0nnivain Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 If they happened naturally in the past, you know how to read the signs that now is the time for a kiss. If you see them with her, kiss her. If you don't back off. It's very simple. She will non-verbally communicate what she wants.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 Don't focus on this on the date . Focus on having fun and getting to know her / make her laugh etc. At the end of the date, walk her to her car or something - or another opportunity to be alone-ish. See how her body language is with you. Does she keep close? You can go in for the kiss test: Look into her eyes and hold her gaze, does she look away? No? Start leaning in (cautiously), and if she starts backing away you know that she doesn't want you in her space - Back away. Otherwise go all the way for the kiss. Let it last 3-5 seconds, and keep it closed mouth. In short - yes try and get a kiss on the first date. Just be graceful about it in case she isn't receptive. 2
CrystalShine2011 Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 If it's the right time to kiss, it'll usually happen and be initiated by both parties.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 If it's the right time to kiss, it'll usually happen and be initiated by both parties. Idk.. Women don't really initiate it ever. They just meet you halfway after you're clearly going in.
daniella993 Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 You can go in for the kiss test: Look into her eyes and hold her gaze, does she look away? No? Start leaning in (cautiously), and if she starts backing away you know that she doesn't want you in her space - Back away. Otherwise go all the way for the kiss. Let it last 3-5 seconds, and keep it closed mouth. Wow!)) I remember one guy did that with me, and he was to funny to kiss with him) I think, that first-date kiss is not the thing you should worry about. Many girls (me as well) think that to kiss in the first evening together is too light-minded... better, to wait till the second date.. But, sometimes, a guy could be so hot, that girl just can't resist a suggestion)
d0nnivain Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 Many girls (me as well) think that to kiss in the first evening together is too light-minded... better, to wait till the second date.. Different strokes for different folks. As a woman, I get annoyed if I want to kiss a man on a 1st date & he doesn't kiss me. I'm of the mindset that if I bothered to go out with you, you're crazy if you don't think I'm attracted to you. However, especially with OLD, if I'm not feeling it, I will very clearly telegraph "back off!" What I want, what daniella993 wants doesn't really matter. What does the woman you are on the date with want? Do that!
Nalina_K Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 Try and find out! If she says that it's too early.. Well, it's not a tragedy. I'm sure she won't ignore you after that. Everything'll be OK!
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 Yeah romances don't happen like in the movies.. Usually theres a few missteps and fumbles on both sides. Even if she doesn't want to kiss on the first date, you're OK! However by Date #2 i'd be wary if she still hasn't. If there doesn't seem to be any physical chemistry in the first couple dates, I wouldn't keep it going.
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