Seeker12 Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 Hey guys, im pretty deep in NC, and to a certain extent im doing okay, so for all those starting out in NC, the recommendation and review is the same as ever, stick to it, itll help you get through the stormy weather! My thread is more based on the aftermath, when you think youve recovered and when you see your ex, this is where im confused, heres the quick backstory. Ive seen my ex less than a handful of times now after the break up and the subsequent break up aftermath, and this particular time the company she works for, came to college to do stand/presentation talking to students, of which she was part of. Now to make clear we went through a break up which wasn't our choice around 5-7 months ago, i think and feel i recovered well up to now. But it annoyed me that when i saw her, and to be honest she couldnt have missed seeing me, she treats me like a complete stranger, doesnt even look at me, and acts like she doesnt know me, completely sees through me basically. We had 5-7 years together as good friends and as a couple, and i thought, understanding the situation of the break up, atleast there would be some acknowledgement of eachother and what we had, not just the cold hard shoulder or some seeming resentment, and just becoming strangers, even though i have gone completely no contact with her. Anyway, i walk into the student union and there she is sitting directly in my line of sight, facing me, but not even acknowledging that im there. Even though im trying to move on from her, and am doing NC for like forever, it did hurt, or atleast dent the ego abit. Im guessing people have gone through this before, so id just like some insight, even advice, because right now im like WTH, theres no reason to act like that, we cant be together fine, but treat eachother as strangers is unnecessary perhaps?
Tarot777 Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 Probably got caught off guard, she probably didn't know what to do. It might be too painful to talk with you? Was it a really bad break up? Who left who?
Satu Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 Snip: *we went through a break up which wasn't our choice *What do you mean by that?
Author Seeker12 Posted February 21, 2015 Author Posted February 21, 2015 Snip: *What do you mean by that? We didnt leave eachother, we eventually came to a mutual decision to break up that her parents weren't going to accept me and life would just be made extremely hard, especially for her.
Author Seeker12 Posted February 21, 2015 Author Posted February 21, 2015 (edited) Then its probably too painful for her Thanks tarot for your understanding, but i dont think it is, she was very forward in telling me near the end, and laying down that shes moving on/moved on, has no feelings for me, only "cares" for me, doesnt see us going anywhere etc. and that us being anything else is pointless. People may obviously say she was giving pretty big hints, but for it to result in what seems resentment, and completely acting like im a stranger? I dont understand that mentality. Yes okay, shes gone NC you can say for her own recovery, but when i mean like she treated me like a stranger, like i mean it. Edited February 21, 2015 by Seeker12
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