busymummy Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 Ok, im pretty much lost and looking for opinions, ill try keep it short. Ive been with my partner for almost 4 years. I have two children from a previous relationship and one child with this partner but ive also had fulltime custody of his sisters three children for the past 15 months. The thing is, my partner is so lazy, he sleeps in, doesn't do any house work, once he is up all he does is lay on the lounge and watch tv, it is a fight to get him to mow the lawn or fix things around the house. I do all the cooking and cleaning while he sits back and watches, he also gets enjoyment out of stirring up all six kids and causing arguments. He used to work until we got these kids and started receiving large payments from the government, now he makes no effort to get a job, ive told him that six kids is too much on me while im doing everything but he guilts me into not telling community services that i can no longer care for the extra kids, but i suspect the main reason he wants his sisters kids with us is for the money! Im just really fed up and feel like im not getting anywhere! Its harder because i left a 10 yr unhappy relationship because i was abused, depressed and lonely and i feel like ive not moved forward, i have expressed all of this on numerous occasions to my current partner but his response is "whatever". The reason ive hung around is because he is a loving father, he isnt abusive, he is funny anr most times affectionate, just really immature and lazy, what do i do!?
Mrs. John Adams Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 In this whole scenario you did not once say you love him. Not once did it say he contributes anything to the relationship. You said he is a good father. He is funny..and he doesn't abuse you. I do think you owe it to each other to have a heart to heart talk...you need to tell him your expectations from a loving partner. He needs to also tell you his. If he is not willing to be the partner you need and want...if what he needs is different than you can provide him...then the two of you need to reevaluate. If you love each other..if you are willing to compromise...then stay together and grow as a family. If not...you know what you need to do. You have a lot on your plate..it is admirable of you to take his relatives children. I wish you the best. 1
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