luvsux69 Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 So Ive been seeing this girl for about 8 months now and every month we have a fight and then we are ok again. About one month ago, her good guy friend calls her (she has him on speakerphone) and tells her he will have a snowboarding trip and that I'm invited as well. 2 weeks pass by and she never mentions anything to me but she does invite me to his birthday / open bar event which was cool and we all got along. I feel down about the trip because her and I have been sleeping together for the past 7 months or so (pretty much every night) and i bring it up to her and tell her "hey your friend on speakerphone said that i could come on the trip and you never invited me, just wondering why you didnt ask me to come" she said " no he didnt", i said "yes he did, i heard him on speakerphone a few weeks back." she says "maybe he was being sarcastic" *he never had a sarcastic tone. then she says well i didnt think you wanted to go so i never asked you. (i was disappointed that she never even asked me if i wanted to go because she should just assume i dont want to go). just a few days go by she says maybe you can come with me and we only go for a day and come back since I have to study for my exam. i said sure thats cool. 2 days later she says it sucks that i wont see you this weekend, i feel bad and im going to miss you. I asked her what happened to us going for a day and then returning? She said that she asked a friend and that he said it wouldnt be a good idea to do that because birthday boy would get upset. This morning when we wake up, I feel and look upset and she asks me whats wrong and i explain to her that its about the trip. that if we are sleeping with each other and her friend invites me but she doesnt, then of course im going to be upset. she then changes it to "my friend is very particular of his friends and there is very limited space". i told her "but he said i could come so that doesnt even apply." Later today(friday), i call her at work to explain that the trip still bothers me for some reason and then she tells me that she didnt want me to come because shes afraid of how I'm going to act in front of her friends. i told her ive never misbehaved in front of her friends before. Today (friday), is the day she left for the trip and will be back on sunday. I told her how uncomfortable i felt about this trip shes going on and she said she doesnt even want to go on it. She has a lot of studying to do and I said well you've said you keep on changing the story to different things. I feel like its all bull**** but I still have feelings for her and i dont have any proof that it is bull****. People say you should trust and give benefit of the doubt but in this case i heard too many different things from her and i dont know what to believe. The only thing holding us together is the fact we sleep together pretty much every night and the feelings we have. I dont know if i can trust this girl. She just text me that she loves me.
NJ123 Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 (edited) Seems extremely suspicious. Her story kept changing about the trip & not allowing you to go when the guy said you could. Not a good sign at all especially when he clearly stated you could & she said no he didn't. And the bs about behaving weird around your friends. Something is definitely going on somewhere in my opinion. And the I love you text could be a sign of guilt on her part about something. I've heard of women doing that when they feel guilty about something. Edited February 21, 2015 by NJ123
NJ123 Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 Well I read the longer thread you posted. You need to just end this relationship. Seems very toxic. She didn't want you to go on this trip for a specfic reason that she hasn't told you about. I think you know what I mean.
MidwestUSA Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 You have laid a hand on this woman in anger. I'd be worried too about how you're going to act. Let her go and end this 'relationship'. 1
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