Ruby65 Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 I'm going to give him space, but how long before it's obvious he isn't coming back? I don't think there's a set answer to that question. Just continue to not contact him and let the situation unfold.
Author Me. Myself and I Posted February 21, 2015 Author Posted February 21, 2015 Thank you for replying. It's hard I'm hurting a lot, I'm feeling so lonely, the house feels empty. Just like I do right now.
Ruby65 Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 I'm so sorry for what you're going through... it's really rough, I know because I've been there! You'll start to feel better, but that takes a while. For now, just try and get through this hour by hour -- try to pamper yourself as much as possible, whatever works. Treat yourself like you've got a bad flu and do whatever helps you feel a little better. Hot bath, ice cream, Netflix marathon, talking to friends, working out, reading through threads on sites like this -- whatever you can do that feels good, do it this weekend. And please do check out the No Contact Guide posted here -- it helps to read about breakups, no matter what happens between you and your ex, sometimes just knowing you're not alone helps. Here's a great resource guide too: http://www.breakuprecoveryguide.com/
Author Me. Myself and I Posted February 21, 2015 Author Posted February 21, 2015 Thank you so much, it's nice to know there is a place I can come to talk about it.
Author Me. Myself and I Posted February 22, 2015 Author Posted February 22, 2015 He text me..... He actually text me!!! He sent me this.... Debated to send u a message or not as I don't want to mess with u but got to say I've honestly been thinking about u ALL the time. Just to let u know....I didn't actually go off u, it was the way that Uve been that made me walk out. I waited a while and replied with Thank you for the text, I've been thinking about to too. And left it at that. Can anyone shed any light on this or give me some advise please?
Ruby65 Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 You must do what you think is right. To me it looks like business as usual.... he's tossing you scraps and you're grateful for them. He blames you completely for his "walking out." Another red flag: that's the behavior of an abuser. Are you also to blame for his emotional unavailability, his attention to other women? I think it's a matter of how little you're willing to settle for, sorry to say.
Author Me. Myself and I Posted February 22, 2015 Author Posted February 22, 2015 I understand what you're saying here. I so feel that I am mostly to blame. He had said previously that he understands it isn't all to do with me. I figured it was him telling me that he was thinking about me and that it was the pressure I put on that essentially made him walk away. And that he is still wanting space. I kept my reply short saying thank you for the text, so letting him know I'm grateful for telling me and to say I was thinking of him too. I still haven't heard anything more, so today feels a little rubbish. But then I'm looking at it as he did contact me. Whether that be because he was missing me genuinely, or him letting me know what's what because it left me confused. For him to send something like that is a big deal, he has a stubborn nature. So I was thrown back to even get that text. I'm going to continue with not contacting him and see if he contacts me again.
Author Me. Myself and I Posted February 22, 2015 Author Posted February 22, 2015 Also I've been looking up some info on romantic attachment styles, it's help me see a lot. I'm not making excuses up for him, but there are people out there who struggle with emotions and find it difficult in expressing them verbally.
Author Me. Myself and I Posted February 22, 2015 Author Posted February 22, 2015 Ok he text me again... I am definitely missing our Sunday roasts Should I reply?
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