EC Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 Can you really just wake up and not love a person anymore? Just asking because of something I saw..?
Stone Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 In my situation I really wish that was possible. but I think it's something that happens over time
alphamale Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 Originally posted by EC Can you really just wake up and not love a person anymore? NO
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 No. It may appear that way to you, though - because the process that led to it is often not revealed to you while its happening. In fact, some people over-compensate and it appears that things are going better than ever but really its a steady and slow decline. You only begin to notice it when its almost gone, and generally only get to see it when it hits bottom.
Merin Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 I agree with Stone and Alpha.. It happens over time.. I think the reason people often feel confused as to what the hell just happend when or if thier relationship ends and it *seems* sudden is because they failed to recognize or accept what they were seeing in thier SO.
Author EC Posted April 5, 2005 Author Posted April 5, 2005 My friend left her guy and well ..I thought she really really loved him..and he loved her...but then someonelese came along and everything was doubted..the bf was broken up with and now she has never been happier. I have never seen her so happy with anyone. But her bf is miserable, can't go on with life, and doesn't understand where all the love went and neither can I? I mean it scared me sh*tless because (and I know i shouldnt turn peoples problems into mine) but dang I mean one day it was marriage..the next it was hey I have absolutely no feelings for you!?
Merin Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 Originally posted by EC My friend left her guy and well ..I thought she really really loved him..and he loved her...but then someonelese came along and everything was doubted..the bf was broken up with and now she has never been happier. I have never seen her so happy with anyone. But her bf is miserable, can't go on with life, and doesn't understand where all the love went and neither can I? I mean it scared me sh*tless because (and I know i shouldnt turn peoples problems into mine) but dang I mean one day it was marriage..the next it was hey I have absolutely no feelings for you!? Hmm.. Well for what it's worth heres a few things my Dad (and I'm sure others) have said.. 1) A new broom sweeps good.. it's amazing how wonderful and amazing someone new can look to another.. but in the end it's still a broom.. uh.. yeah.. LOL 2) The grass is always greener.. ya know until you walk in the dark only to step in Dog Sh*t.. Point being.. people breakup all of the time for the next *best thing* sometimes it works out.. and sometimes.. damn you really wish you had the old broom back.. Jeez I'm cheesy!
alphamale Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 this is the equation I came up with on how long it takes to fall out of love with someone in most cases: F=[(T x T)/12] x 0.25, where: "F" = time to fall out of love in months "T" = total number of months you were together
Naive Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 I don't think it's possible. Yes you can wake up one day and decide to stop loving them but it's something that happens gradually.
Ty Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 Well once you have fallen out of love with someone, is it possible to fall back in love with them?
Author EC Posted April 5, 2005 Author Posted April 5, 2005 Thats the same question my friends ex asked me and my heart broke because I didn't have the answer for him?
Illusion24 Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 It's not that you wake up one day and realize you don't love them...you just realized you loved them a different way...sometimes life brings you certain people to make you realize that some things aren't what them seem to be...I loved my ex very much, he was a wonderful person, but not for ME...I want him to love and be loved the way I feel now and the way you feel with the person you love...I've been broken hearted plenty of times, I've been screamed at plenty of times, but I've learned from those experiences...Love is hard but being with someone you truly don't love is even harder
blind_otter Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 Originally posted by LucreziaBorgia No. It may appear that way to you, though - because the process that led to it is often not revealed to you while its happening. In fact, some people over-compensate and it appears that things are going better than ever but really its a steady and slow decline. You only begin to notice it when its almost gone, and generally only get to see it when it hits bottom. This, I agree with. This has happened to me before.
Author EC Posted April 5, 2005 Author Posted April 5, 2005 .Love is hard but being with someone you truly don't love is even harder I can completely agree with this~ Ive been there.
Fifth Dawn Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 Originally posted by EC Can you really just wake up and not love a person anymore? Just asking because of something I saw..? I don't think it's possible. I never ever wanted to love my other half the way I do now, but I just couldn't help falling so hard. It scares me.
moimeme Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 I mean it scared me sh*tless because (and I know i shouldnt turn peoples problems into mine) but dang I mean one day it was marriage..the next it was hey I have absolutely no feelings for you!? There is the situation others described and there are two other possibles. There is a feeling that you might think is 'love', particularly if you haven't been in love, and it often starts early in a relationship. Then you get to know someone else, fall in real love, realize the other was an infatuation, and go for the real love. OTOH, you may have indeed been in love for a few years and gotten to the point where love has become comfortable rather than heart-thumps and butterflies. If you're convinced that 'real love' always involves that breathless, infatuated feeling and somebody comes along that grabs your interest, you may think the new crush is love and that you've fallen out of love with your first partner.
emotionsmessmeup Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 it happened to me! the minute i saw his pics with sum1 else he bcame a monster in my eyes
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