chelseamoon Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 (edited) Hi all im a bisexual girl.im gonna keep this as simple as i can. 2 mts ago my gf of 2 yrs dumped me, she just moved downstairs in our hse & said she didnt love me or fancy ne more. But after a chat she said she does love me but not fancy so After weeks of me hating, been angry, begging her all emotions. I gave up fighting & decided to work on friendship as people say im too soft but rather her in my life than not at all plus we both have kids from past rel who are close. Now weeks later we are finally starting to get on great again, laughing, goin cinema odd text and living 2gether nicely (in seprete rooms) but my feelings for her are still strong, i miss her & i feel she sometimes does me as i catch her watching me across the room or askin me more about my day( which she never did b4) or that stare.but one night when i was upstairs i texted her sayin enjoyed movie, thanks i do love u, she replied i enjoyed also wink face but that was it.I also texted fee days later saying I hope she can talk to me as I'm here for her (she didn't tb) i have to txt as she gets mad or doesnt talk if i try.I just get these feelings off her sometimes and mix signals but if i try to talk or if i dare say i want her back she gets mad or says she don't want be a couple, so I won't make a move(im scared to try that & be rejected) any advice pls x Edited February 20, 2015 by chelseamoon
preraph Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 She is no longer interested in your romantically, period. She is very uncomfortable when you bring it up. She is going to get mad at you for agreeing to just be friends but then continuing to try to make it into something more. She should have moved all the way out, and the only way you're going to move on is if she does. Because exactly how are you going to handle it when she brings a date home?
Buddhist Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 Why are you txting someone you are living with? Honestly, what kind of communication style is that? People really need to give up this impersonal and ineffective way of communicating with others. No wonder relationship issues happen when this is how adults relate to each other. I'd suggest that your relationship breakdown had something to do with a lack of proper communication. If you really want a second chance then you need to talk about it face to face. And then continue to work on the problems. If not, then move on.
Buddhist Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 I gave up fighting & decided to work on friendship as people say im too soft but rather her in my life than not at all plus we both have kids from past rel who are close. I was a bit concerned by this statement. It seems like you are willing to accept anything to escape the need to be alone. This is not a good way to make a clean break from a relationship. Both living under the same roof, will continue to fuel your desire to get back with her and prevent you from moving onto another relationship. And you are already having problems just being 'friends'....
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