amytct Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 The last time he and I saw each other was on February 27th and I thought things were fine. Then for the next four weeks, we would make tentative plans and he either wouldn't confirm with me or would cancel at the last minute. We last spoke a week ago today through e-mail. I asked him if he would chat with me that night and he said he'd stop in if he didn't get home too late from an event he had to attend. He never showed up. I asked him about the weekend, he didn't answer. Then I sent another short e-mail telling him that if he didn't want to be with me, to just tell me so. I ended up apologizing for that one, but he didn't respond to either. I finally e-mailed Sunday night after I had taken my dog to the vet and had him put to sleep. I know I shouldn't have, but I was upset and needed to reach out to people. (I sent similar messages to several of my friends.) Nothing, not even a simple I'm sorry. So we didn't have a fight of any kind, he just stopped giving a damn about anything to do with me. He has a Web site for a biking club he's in and I admit I checked it yesterday and he had updated it Sunday with news of their big ride Saturday and photos. He's carrying on like nothing has happened. He must really hate me, I don't know how somone that I loved with all my heart can be so unbelievably cruel to just give me the silent treatment and no explanation of what went wrong. How do I let go with no resolution?
Merin Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 I'm sorry... Keep this in mind.. you DON'T need his permission to move on. What I mean by that is simply this.. don't allow him to hold you anywhere you don't want to be, which at this point is in limbo. Actions speak louder than words here.. and in this case he's showing you and telling you (silently) what kind of person he is. Letting go of what is.. would be a hella lot easier if you can let go of what you want things to be. Don't wait around for the what if's.. give yourself permisson to let go of what is. Hope you feel better soon
NiCoLe20 Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 i would just leave him be for a while. dont call him anymore or text him or email me b/c its obviously not helping much. he probably wants you to leave him alone but he doesnt have the balls to say it. Let him come to you and call you, and in order for that to possibly happen, leave him alone!
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