Author Eevee Posted February 20, 2015 Author Posted February 20, 2015 Thanks for all the replies! I nipped out to the store for a while and came back to all these messages! Just want to address a few things people have said: I want to stress the fact that I do tell him that his hand gripping is hurting but the message never seems to stick in his head. Someone above also suggested I dig a little deeper with him and his neediness (something I've seriously considered breaking up over in the past) What crept up once but I let fly because it was so out of character of him was that he wouldn't take 'no' for an answer. He basically wanted to get frisky but I wasn't feeling it so told him so but he pestered and in the end I had to tell him 4 times no before telling him 'you don't want me telling people you don't take no for an answer' he backed down then and made a joke of it. Of course the more I think about it the more this is actually true - he can't take no for an answer. Obviously I can see what sort of things people will start to think but is it a bit of an over-reaction?
katiegrl Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 This is gonna sound hokey...but is he a Scorpio by any chance? No disrespect to any Scorpio guys on this board, and of course not all Scorpio men are like this...but I have been involved with a few...and have found them to be annoyingly possessive, territorial and controlling... I remember one Scorp guy taking my hand (rather aggressively I might add).. during our first meet up...it wasn't even a date! He then proceeded to decide what *I* should eat for dinner ... and when the waitress came to take order... he proceeded to order for me without ever even asking me if that's what I wanted! I was so turned off, I was tempted to leave right then and there .... but I finished the date and when he announced when we would be going out again. (note he didn't ask me out, he told me when we'd be going out again)......I responded "I think not, but thanks anyway."
preraph Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 You've told him and he's ignored you. That means he cares more about his needs than yours by quite a bit. Once you've told him and been serious about it and told him it hurts and he keeps it up, you have an abuse situation if he doesn't stop. I'm afraid you have a very controlling needy guy here and that it is only going to get worse.
Author Eevee Posted February 20, 2015 Author Posted February 20, 2015 This is gonna sound hokey...but is he a Scorpio by any chance? No disrespect to any Scorpio guys on this board, and of course not all Scorpio men are like this...but I have been involved with a few...and have found them to be annoyingly possessive, territorial and controlling... I remember one Scorp guy taking my hand (rather aggressively I might add).. during our first meet up...it wasn't even a date! He then proceeded to decide what *I* should eat for dinner ... and when the waitress came to take order... he proceeded to order for me without ever even asking me if that's what I wanted! I was so turned off, I was tempted to leave right then and there .... but I finished the date and when he announced when we would be going out again. (note he didn't ask me out, he told me when we'd be going out again)......I responded "I think not, but thanks anyway." Actually no, he's a Libra! (like me!) which is so strange for me since I normally find Libra guys the perfect gentleman! Have to say I have a soft spot for Scorpios too - glad I'm not the only one here who likes looking into astrology!
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 I'm a Gemini - never seem to see that many Gemini's out there.
stillafool Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 Actually no, he's a Libra! (like me!) which is so strange for me since I normally find Libra guys the perfect gentleman! Have to say I have a soft spot for Scorpios too - glad I'm not the only one here who likes looking into astrology! I'm a libra too and my ex husband was a libra. He was constantly all over me like a wet suit. Ugh, so glad I'm married to a Gemini now.
Author Eevee Posted March 10, 2015 Author Posted March 10, 2015 I'm a libra too and my ex husband was a libra. He was constantly all over me like a wet suit. Ugh, so glad I'm married to a Gemini now. Don't know how interesting people will find this but I ended up looking up 'typical' Libra traits and he ended up matching about 50% of the traits and I matched the other 50%. Probably a case of too different there? Quick example for him: Romantic, overbearing and has a sense of fair play Me: Has clear opinions, manipulative and artistic (used some positive and negatives) Got them from a book but I've forgotten the title - I'll check it up next time I'm home
GemmaUK Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 My last ex used to do this too. He wasn't particularly tactile in private - just insisted that I sit RIGHT next to him and he didn't like when I got up to do something like being visible and picking up my bag from a few feet away or going upstairs to the toilet. Out in public he would pull his sleeve up and walk in front of me hand held out and this would cause an argument if I was putting my keys away or something and didn't grab his hand straight away. I used to peel his hand off mine when I needed it as no amount of telling him I needed my hand was effective. He also used to poke me in the ribs to make me stay put. I got a damaged ligament from that and it inspired a conversation with his best buddy. My ex was adamant that he was right in poking me. His best bud told him that if it hurt me and I didn't like it then it wasn't right and he should use the flat of his hand (as I had requested). He was on my case all day everyday with texts, mails and calls. Life was his way or no way according to him and he didn't like that I was independent and had my own opinions and didn't behave as he wanted/expected. He was very needy and very controlling, emotionally abusive and the last time I saw him he raised a hand to me and I ran - literally. Be aware of your guy OP. Trust your instincts.
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