pjm123 Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 I am trying to figure out and understand this push pull method and i know i need to do it and some reason i get stressing out thinking im not creating good amount attraction because last date wasnt as into me as valentines. Anyone can help explain how i need to be on dates so she is attracted to me?
PegNosePete Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 With virtually no details, no, nobody is going to be able to help you.
katiegrl Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 I am trying to figure out and understand this push pull method and i know i need to do it and some reason i get stressing out thinking im not creating good amount attraction because last date wasnt as into me as valentines. Anyone can help explain how i need to be on dates so she is attracted to me? I dunno...I am of the belief that attraction is either there or it's not. You can't "create" attraction, or "make" someone become attracted to you by doing this or that. I mean, you either have chemistry or you don't...and it has nothing to do with looks, their job, where they live, how much money they have, whether they're "mysterious" or "intriguing" enough, etc. It's just an energy you feel with a chick that tells you you're clicking! And that there is something "there.". And when it's real and genuine, and not based on the superficial like looks, it's usually if not always mutual! We don't even know why really either. Attraction and chemistry .... and why we feel it with some and not others .... is just one of the many things we will NEVER really understand or figure out. If she's not feeling it, there is nothing you can do...except move on. Anything else and you run the risk of annoying the hell out of her and her finding you incredibly irritating!
d0nnivain Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 You can't make her attracted to you. You can only push her away. Be confident. Be interesting. Be interested in her. Do not be clingy, whiney or needy. Go from there.
Buddhist Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 What you're talking about is using manipulation in order to keep someone. If you like the girl at all, don't do that.
Author pjm123 Posted February 21, 2015 Author Posted February 21, 2015 Its not manipulate but obvious women lose interest in you if your boring and gota put effort socially and have to impress or entertain them???
Buddhist Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 Its not manipulate but obvious women lose interest in you if your boring and gota put effort socially and have to impress or entertain them??? No, this is not true although it's what a lot of people think in the early stages of dating. There's a few things here. Very young women can be fickle, just like very young men can be. They are playing at love, getting what they want from someone and then onto the next person. That's just what young people do. No amount of push/pull is going to prevent that and in many cases will actually cause it to happen sooner. There is no magic formula for making someone interested in you and keeping them so. But there are some manipulation techniques out there that people use and then they run around telling everyone how they've found the magic formula. Manipulation techniques don't do anything except confuse and hurt other people. Then those people leave that relationship and make it much harder for the next person they meet. Before long you get a lot of people too scared to give another person a chance because they've been manipulated by others. A young woman does not need to feel constant anxiety and emotional highs in order to choose you. If they do, they are the kind of person who will jump into bed with the next best looking guy they can find. If you're not interesting enough on your own then she's not with you because she likes you. She with you until she finds someone better. And if she is with you because she likes you, blowing hot and cold on her will likely cause her to change her mind about that and break up with you.
Author pjm123 Posted February 22, 2015 Author Posted February 22, 2015 How do u know if not interesting?
clevelander321 Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 I think many guys kill attraction through being needy.. Do not text her. Do not call for hours.. Call her to set up a date, and then if she doesn't flake she is interested. If she keeps showing up, she is still interested. Don't ask what she does while you are not with her, don't act jealous, and just be honest and have fun. Women also like confidence, and by the questions you are asking it seems you may not be very confident. 1
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