ally2015 Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 Hi All, I am asking this on behalf of my friend... I will do a brief recap... Her boyfriend of 2 years left her about a month ago and has gone straight in NC with her as he now with the girl he was cheating on her with... My friend suspected she may be pregnant BEFORE he left or she knew anything was going on and told this to his sister... anyways she did a home pregnancy test and it came up positive and she told the ex and he said he would be supportive etc... that was a month ago... she had a lot of heavy bleeding and when she went to the drs they took blood and it has come up she isnt pregnant the dr said it is likely to have been a miscarriage. My friend is stressing out because she thinks the ex will think she made it up and she has no real way to prove it... he has made no contact about it and his whole family knew about it and thinks they will just say she made it all up to try and keep him despite when she found out she told him she would be doing it on her own.... so should she tell him about the miscarriage even though the only proof of the pregnancy is the home pregnancy tests OR should she just say nothing and if he asks she can say she miscarried and say either you believe me or you dont? Would love some advice to pass onto her... they already have a child together so its not like he will be out of her life and just dont tell him anything... she is stuck with him for life and just doesnt want him or his family to question her.
JS84 Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 Well since she told him she was pregnant and his family is aware she should probably just get it out of the way and tell him she miscarried. As for whether the family believes her or not, that is most likely out of her control anyway so worrying about it won't do her any good. They'll either believe her or they won't.
mightycpa Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 They will believe that she made it up if she doesn't tell them, and doesn't have a baby. However, if she contacts him and tells him that he's off the hook, she had a miscarriage. then I think she'll have a better shot at being believed. Of course, she could also tell him that it turned out that he wasn't the father after all, and that she's no longer pregnant, leaving the rest to his imagination. In the final analysis, who cares what they think? She knows what is true.
Author ally2015 Posted February 20, 2015 Author Posted February 20, 2015 They will believe that she made it up if she doesn't tell them, and doesn't have a baby. Thats true! But she is also not contacting him as he was abusive... should i send him a message on her behalf OR what... she doesnt want to break the NC but wants it over and done with. Of course, she could also tell him that it turned out that he wasn't the father after all, and that she's no longer pregnant, leaving the rest to his imagination. Haha love it! he would lose his mind! i said if she does tell him it should be something along the lines of "im no longer pregnant, enjoy your life" leave it upto his imagination what happened to the baby. She is so nice though she doesnt want to play games... maybe i should just send a message "just letting you know in case you care ______ is no longer pregnant. Enjoy your life." In the final analysis, who cares what they think? She knows what is true. That is true but she doesnt want all the bull**** that will follow like she made it up... umm no she didnt... maybe if she had begged to him to stay for the baby etc... but she said im pregnant, u can be involved or not i dont care, ill do it myself and not put u on the birth certificate... think that sends a pretty strong message to him. its awful because she has lost a child and so has he but how he is acting is beyond a joke. he deserves to know nothing but in saying that if months go by and no sign of a baby causes more dramas No one should have to be told they have lost a child via sms but thats all he deserves so how should i word it for her?
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