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Hi all, I have some questions. If you don't mind, would you share some insights with me?

 

1. Do you believe in soulmates?

 

2. Why is it hard to let go of someone you love?

 

3. Why is it hard to hold on to the one you love?

 

4. Why do men cry after a break- up?

 

5. Who will you choose: the man/or woman who is the center of your world or the man/woman

who gave the world to you?

 

6. Why do we need to love?

 

7. What's so nice in being single?

 

8. Why do you think people find it hard to tell the one they love that they love them?

 

9. Hardest thing a person can do?

 

10. What do you think is the most painful thing the person you love can do?

 

11. How should people cope with a breakup/heartache ?

 

12. Do you believe that love never dies?

 

13. Is it normal not to be jealous?

 

14. Do you believe in long courtship?

 

15. How about long distance relationships?

 

16. Do you believe in a long engagement?

 

17. You cant appreciate the rose without accepting the thorns to love. Do you agree with it?

 

18. Why do you think its hard for people to accept the past and move on?

 

19. Why is it hard to put their trust back to love again?

 

20. Is love a choice or destiny?

 

I'm very sorry if those questions are lame or cliche. Thanks

vickimonster Member

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1. Do you believe in soulmates? Yes, but I wouldn’t nessecerily your soulmate and you lover are the same person

 

2. Why is it hard to let go of someone you love? Because you are afraid of the unknown, if you let go of someone you can still love them, but you face an unknown what will happen to you.

 

3. Why is it hard to hold on to the one you love? Because the tighter you hold on and cling to them the more likely it is they will feel the need to go.

 

4. Why do men cry after a break- up?

 

5. Who will you choose: the man/or woman who is the center of your world or the man/woman

who gave the world to you? Neither, the man/woman who allows and accept me to have my own world and lets me into theirs

 

6. Why do we need to love? We don’t need it. We want it.

 

7. What's so nice in being single? Being able to be selfish for a bit and think about only yourself. Having the freedom to find out who you are. Makes you stronger when a relationship comes along.

 

8. Why do you think people find it hard to tell the one they love that they love them? Because we are afraid if we are wrong we will hurt the other person.

 

9. Hardest thing a person can do? In what context?

 

10. What do you think is the most painful thing the person you love can do? Not leave you if there love has gone.

 

11. How should people cope with a breakup/heartache ? However suits them best, however gets them through.

 

12. Do you believe that love never dies? I hope it doesn’t.

 

13. Is it normal not to be jealous? What is normal, I don’t know, but it is wonderful not to be.

 

14. Do you believe in long courtship? It depends on the people, circumstances etc.

 

15. How about long distance relationships? Again depends on the people, of course they can work.

 

16. Do you believe in a long engagement? Again depends on the people and their circumstances.

 

17. You cant appreciate the rose without accepting the thorns to love. Do you agree with it? Yes

 

18. Why do you think its hard for people to accept the past and move on? Fear of their unknown future.

 

19. Why is it hard to put their trust back to love again? You should never give a person reason not to trust you. You really only get one chance with trust, once is is broken it can be fixed but never totally healed.

 

20. Is love a choice or destiny? Does it matter?

 

Just my thoughts

funlin New Member

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1. Do you believe in soulmates? It is almost like asking people do you believe in God because it is like faith that is all.

 

2. Why is it hard to let go of someone you love?

Because you always remember the good times and you are not alone.

 

3. Why is it hard to hold on to the one you love?

Because someone is not on the same sheet of music.

 

4. Why do men cry after a break- up?

Because man are not machines after all. It is not sex like most woman thinks.

 

5. Who will you choose: the man/or woman who is the center of your world or the man/woman

who gave the world to you?

 

6. Why do we need to love? It is part of natural process. I believe just like eating and breathing.

 

7. What's so nice in being single? Because you were in the wrong relationship.

 

8. Why do you think people find it hard to tell the one they love that they love them? Pride

 

9. Hardest thing a person can do? Tell you the relationship is over without valid reasons because you think it was you but it just doesn't work.

 

10. What do you think is the most painful thing the person you love can do?

 

11. How should people cope with a breakup/heartache ? Try to understand yourself why you are having heartache then stop the bleeding don't ask for more.

 

12. Do you believe that love never dies? Well you will care for the person but you will think about them but love does die.

 

13. Is it normal not to be jealous? Nope I don't think so

 

14. Do you believe in long courtship? No it is not healthy

 

15. How about long distance relationships? It works only you have long term plan together.

 

16. Do you believe in a long engagement? Nope, you should just get it over with it.

 

17. You cant appreciate the rose without accepting the thorns to love. Do you agree with it?

 

18. Why do you think its hard for people to accept the past and move on?

 

19. Why is it hard to put their trust back to love again? Can't bear the feeling of getting hurt again.

 

20. Is love a choice or destiny? Destiny

latesleeper Member

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hi,

 

10. What do you think is the most painful thing the person you love can do?

 

to betray your love and trust.

 

the other questions need more thought. :o

HokeyReligions Established Member

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Originally posted by BlankSpace

Hi all, I have some questions. If you don't mind, would you share some insights with me?

 

1. Do you believe in soulmates? [color=blue]I believe that some couples are right for each other and could not find a better partner. I don't know if that is what you mean by souldmates. I don't believe that some higher power has designed people to match with others and that we go through a lot of dating until we find the person the higher power intended for us. If that were the case, why didn't the higher power just match everyone the way s/he intended?[/color]

 

2. Why is it hard to let go of someone you love? [color=blue]Selfishness[/color].

 

3. Why is it hard to hold on to the one you love? [color=blue]It takes work from both parties to make a relationship work. If one doesn't want to put in the effort, the other can struggle and struggle to hold on to the semblance of a relationship, but it won't work. Better to let go.[/color]

4. Why do men cry after a break- up?

 

5. Who will you choose: the man/or woman who is the center of your world or the man/woman

who gave the world to you? [color=blue]Both -- they come from the same person. My husband is my center and he gives as much as he can to me. But he's not my center because of that. [/color]

6. Why do we need to love?

 

7. What's so nice in being single? [color=blue]Freedom to come and go w/o reporting to anyone. Making decisions. Self confidence. [/color]

 

8. Why do you think people find it hard to tell the one they love that they love them? [color=blue]I don't know. Maybe they are afraid of rejection?[/color]

 

9. Hardest thing a person can do? [color=blue]The right thing.[/color]

 

10. What do you think is the most painful thing the person you love can do? [color=blue] Self-destruct[/color]

 

11. How should people cope with a breakup/heartache? [color=blue]Improve their self, learn from the experience, move on.[/color]

 

12. Do you believe that love never dies? [color=blue]No. People fall out of love just like they fall in love. That is death of a sort.[/color]

 

13. Is it normal not to be jealous? [color=blue]Yes, for some people. My husband doesn't have a jealous bone in his body--where I am concerned. He is envious sometimes of what others have. Right now he is jealous of our neighbor who just got a new huge flatscreen HDTV and hubby wants one![/color]

 

14. Do you believe in long courtship?[color=blue] Yes. I think its important to go through at least a couple of years to learn about your partner (& their family) and they learn about you. Some of the silliest things can cause a heck of a lot of pain---like when to open x-mas gifts, on x-mas eve or x-mas day. Need that time to build a solid communications platform from which to manage the relationship. [/color]

 

15. How about long distance relationships? [color=blue]I guess they can, but I would think it doubtful for very long. Depends on the individuals and the circumstance.[/color]

 

16. Do you believe in a long engagement? [color=blue]This kinda goes along with #14[/color]

 

17. You cant appreciate the rose without accepting the thorns to love. Do you agree with it? [color=blue]Oh, I can appreciate a rose just fine without thorns! :) But a few thorns are not going to make me toss the rose. I wouldn't want to be tossed aside because someone didn't want my thorns. We all have 'em.[/color]

 

18. Why do you think its hard for people to accept the past and move on? [color=blue]Common human reaction. As a species we adapt to change quite well, but we fight it because we often fear it. Progress is often forced upon us and it's difficult to adjust.[/color]

 

19. Why is it hard to put their trust back to love again? [color=blue]Same reason I wouldn't buy a car from the same place that scammed me before. Don't want to get hurt again. It takes a lot more work to repair a broken relationship then it does to maintain a healthy one. But it can be done.[/color]

 

20. Is love a choice or destiny? [color=blue]I don't believe in destiny. We can't always control who we fall in love with, but then again yes we can. If we don't want to fall in love with a particular type of person, don't hang around with that type of person and don't accept dates from them. Know yourself and your priorities and how to qualify a relationship at different points.[/color]

Merin Established Member

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1. Do you believe in soulmates? No I don't believe in Soulmates

 

2. Why is it hard to let go of someone you love? I believe it's hard to let go of what you want someone to be, which is not always what they actually are.

 

3. Why is it hard to hold on to the one you love? Love and relationships take work.. and it's easy to take it for granted.. so with that said, I don't think it's a matter of holding on to the one you love, it's a matter of not loosing sight of the love you have for them.

 

4. Why do men cry after a break- up? Women cry as well.. change is hard.

 

5. Who will you choose: the man/or woman who is the center of your world or the man/woman

who gave the world to you? The only 2 people who are the center of my world is my little people.. love should enhance your life not consume it.

 

6. Why do we need to love? IMO it's a basic instinct

 

7. What's so nice in being single? Loving yourself

 

8. Why do you think people find it hard to tell the one they love that they love them? Fear of rejection..

 

9. Hardest thing a person can do? Let go of what is, not hold on to what you would have or want them to be..

 

10. What do you think is the most painful thing the person you love can do? Slowly withdraw thier affection

 

11. How should people cope with a breakup/heartache ? People cope with break-ups in thier own way.. whats good for one may not be good for another.

 

12. Do you believe that love never dies? I believe that people come into your life for a reason.. even when it ends hopefully you've learned..

 

13. Is it normal not to be jealous? Again.. whats *normal* for one isn't for another..

 

14. Do you believe in long courtship? I believe that people need to take more time in knowing each other before making life changing choices.

 

15. How about long distance relationships? Would never have one again

 

16. Do you believe in a long engagement? No

 

17. You cant appreciate the rose without accepting the thorns to love. Do you agree with it? No

 

18. Why do you think its hard for people to accept the past and move on? Because often people dwell in a place of what they want things to be, not what they are.

 

19. Why is it hard to put their trust back to love again? For fear of failing.. or experiencing loss

 

20. Is love a choice or destiny? It is a choice to love...

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