beyondcrushed Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 (edited) I just started seeing this guy more than a month ago. We communicate through text only. We have seen each other four times, the last being for Valentine's day. I have always been the one to suggest that maybe we should get together. He was the one that suggested seeing each other Valentines day. He treated me to dinner and movies. We have had sex but he never makes reference to it in our texts. He is very respectful, treats me well. He is always very excited to see me and is happy to be with me when I'm there. He finds me attractive and I him. We have a good time together, and share some interests. He is 10 years younger than me. He's brought me around his friends. The day after Valentine's day, at 11:30pm after being out with his friends, he told me he missed me with a winky smile. I replied the next day cause I was sleeping and said the same. I am starting to fall for this guy but am afraid of getting hurt. I have been hurt before. I'm a jealous person. And can be insecure at times. I am used to texting daily with a SO but this guy sporadically texts me. But of course, he's not a SO and we just started dating. But there's been five days when I haven't heard from him. There's times where I text him with a question and he leaves me hanging for a day or two. But he always replies with an apology that he's been busy with his son or work. And a couple days ago I suggest getting together this week if he isn't out of town for work. His reply wasn't enthusiastic and he only said that he didn't know when he's going out of town. And it turns out he never went out of town, cause I saw him at his job site (construction). I waved from my car as I drove by. We texted shortly after confirming it was me in the car. We exchanged texts and I sent him an "lol" to one of his comments. That was yesterday at lunch and I haven't heard from him. I don't know if I can handle this given my jealousy and insecurity issues. Ugh! I am just wondering if I should reach out to him with a "hey:)" to keep the connection going and make sure he knows I'm still interested, or should I wait and see if he reaches out to me. And if he doesn't, I know he lost interest, and did a fade out. And I saved myself from getting hurt. Thoughts? Should I text or wait? Edited February 19, 2015 by beyondcrushed
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 It sounds like he isn't too into you. I would date other guys and just forget about him. To him you might just be a side girl that he can message when he feels like it and have sex with. If you're afraid of being hurt and regret the sex afterwards - maybe hold off on it until 5 or 6 dates. By then you should weed out guys looking only for sex. 1
Versacehottie Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 well if you always want to be the one who initiates or asks him to do something, then text him. I assume you don't though. A two-way street is better, right? I wouldn't stress. Let him carry part of the responsibility of being together. If he can't man up, then you will have your answer. It's a simple thing to get in touch with a girl you are dating. 4 dates in you are setting up a pattern that will only be harder to break and yes, possibly could mean he IS or WILL take you for granted. break the cycle. 1
Author beyondcrushed Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 It sounds like he isn't too into you. I would date other guys and just forget about him. To him you might just be a side girl that he can message when he feels like it and have sex with. If you're afraid of being hurt and regret the sex afterwards - maybe hold off on it until 5 or 6 dates. By then you should weed out guys looking only for sex. So I reached out with a 'hey, how r u?" he replied quickly n was cool and abrupt in his response. Said he's been off work on docs orders waiting for blood work. Possibly, but I call bs. He clearly wasn't interested in me any longer. I simply replied that I hope he gets well soon. Then never heard from him again. Weird cause he seemed and acted all into me. Very disappointing cause I liked him. Perhaps I was too eager and scared him off So, I am going to hold off on sex with any new man I'm seeing cause I don't want to get played and I know I will get hurt.
Author beyondcrushed Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 well if you always want to be the one who initiates or asks him to do something, then text him. I assume you don't though. A two-way street is better, right? I wouldn't stress. Let him carry part of the responsibility of being together. If he can't man up, then you will have your answer. It's a simple thing to get in touch with a girl you are dating. 4 dates in you are setting up a pattern that will only be harder to break and yes, possibly could mean he IS or WILL take you for granted. break the cycle. Thanks, ya, for the next guy I will b more cognizant of these patterns and will try to set up good ones:) 1
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