oberkeat Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 So, I was at the gym today (I go there during my lunch hour 5 days per week. It's fun for me). I noticed this cute girl with short hair on one of the stationary bikes on my way to the treadmill. I wanted to know her. I wanted to approach. But I just couldn't do it. The gym is the one location that puts me in contact with a large number of females my age, but I have not yet figured out how to strike up a conversation with these girls who are busy sweating it out on those machines without coming across as rude or predatory. Is there a tactful method to approaching girls at the gym, or is this a non-starter altogether?
edelweiss Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 The gym is a tough one, I'll grant you that. As a woman, I'm put off by anybody who talks to me at the gym. It's something, I think, women expect to happen while they're there. Like they're in a man's domain and inevitably we can't just do our thing without getting some brovice on our form or something like that. Inescapable! So. I guess my thoughts as to the way around this would be to catch her as she's leaving, if possible. She's wrapped up her workout, you've wrapped up your's, and just spark up a quick little convo out the door. "Good workout today?" Something simple. Anything. Get the foot in the door. That way, it's not weird if you want to talk to her during her future workouts. And she won't feel like she has to prematurely abandon an exercise/her workout if she doesn't want to talk to you. Or feel trapped at the gym all of a sudden. It works for both of you...and then she knows who you are at that point. 2
BikerAccnt Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 . Like they're in a man's domain and inevitably we can't just do our thing without getting some brovice on our form or something like that. Inescapable! /QUOTE] No real comment to the OP, I just wanted to tell Edelweiss that you made me spit up my coffee. . Never heard that version of the "bro" preposition before. It's a good one! Hilarious. I'll have to remember that And back to the OP, yep, gym is tough. I tend to not talk to the women there, figuring they'd mostly rather I didn't. I just work out and leave.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 Yeah I'd say the Gym is for advanced pickup artists only I won't approach women there. That being said - I'm not at the gym to pickup women - I'm there to improve myself. So I tend to focus on that.
Author oberkeat Posted February 19, 2015 Author Posted February 19, 2015 Well, at least I'm not the only one who hasn't quite solved this puzzle
Buddhist Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 Well, at least I'm not the only one who hasn't quite solved this puzzle It really isn't a puzzle. If we are obviously engaged in some kind of activity that requires our attention, now is not the time to interrupt and demand we stop what we are doing and focus on you. I think all little kids are taught this at some point, just remember what your mother told you.....don't interrupt. The advice to say Hi, on the exit, entrance or while she is obviously standing around cooling off and drinking some water is sound.
Versacehottie Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 I think it's fine to talk to girls at the gym. But this question has come up here before and people are strongly divided. That said, there's approaches that are much better than others. As the other poster said, on the way out or way in. And it's good to start with just familiarity. I think it's a little odd anyway to pretend that you don't recognize a person you see frequently or repetitively anywhere--especially when it's someone attractive, why not? You can just acknowledge their presence with a smile and hi and see what the response is like. That will tell you on which side of this debate (to talk to girls at the gym or not) they are on. I would think that someone who responds positively and openly to an reasonably extent would be far more attractive than someone who doesn't want to be bothered. Good luck
CarrieT Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 I suppose if you have seen her several times, you could start sort of "timing" her work-outs to "bump into her" on her way in or out... Open the door for her, make eye-contact, be seen as a regular guy several times. Then start with small chit-chat, "gee, we are here at the same time a lot" sort of thing and see if she responds favorably.
mrs rubble Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 The gym I go to has a spa and sauna that we use after we've worked out. I've had a fair few men chat me up in the spa.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 The gym I go to has a spa and sauna that we use after we've worked out. I've had a fair few men chat me up in the spa. Your gym has a coed sauna? interesting... My gym each side has their own sauna. Then again I'm in the US...
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