sparx86 Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 I called m ex last night and we talked on the phone for like 90 mins. Felt like we were freind again and we both had been wanting to contact each other. Anyway she has a bf now and a lover lol and I am currently with someone now also. Question is it bad that I have not told my current gf and because I don't even feel bad about it? It was just nice to catch up and don't really plan on calling back anytime soon.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 Seems mostly harmless, unless you still have desire for your ex? That can complicate your feelings for your current GF. Regardless, delete that call out of your log and never speak of it again (and don't call your EX again) - It will only cause trouble for your relationship.
edelweiss Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 Seems mostly harmless, unless you still have desire for your ex? That can complicate your feelings for your current GF. Regardless, delete that call out of your log and never speak of it again (and don't call your EX again) - It will only cause trouble for your relationship. I have to strongly discourage this "delete the call out of your log" business. Ask yourself: If you have to cover up/hide your behavior, is it something you should be doing? If you feel like this call was innocent in nature, and nothing that you should hide, leave the call in your log. If your girlfriend sees it, then tell her what happened. You called, you talked, that's it. But if it's something you have any guilt over, and are afraid of your gf finding out...well you've answered your own question. A lie by omission is still deceit. Deceit is unkind and disrespectful. Not much more to it.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 I have to strongly discourage this "delete the call out of your log" business. Ask yourself: If you have to cover up/hide your behavior, is it something you should be doing? If you feel like this call was innocent in nature, and nothing that you should hide, leave the call in your log. If your girlfriend sees it, then tell her what happened. You called, you talked, that's it. But if it's something you have any guilt over, and are afraid of your gf finding out...well you've answered your own question. A lie by omission is still deceit. Deceit is unkind and disrespectful. Not much more to it. I don't know. I'm of the opinion that if it is a one time thing and it means nothing that it is harmless in sweeping under the rug. No need getting people upset over something that means nothing. Now if the OP has feelings for his EX then it means something and he'll need to talk to his GF. 1
trolloperative Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 Don't tell unless she asks. No harm, no foul. 3
CrystalShine2011 Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 Well, I would be upset if my boyfriend talked on the phone with his ex....but everyone is different you know. So if it was just catching up, then cool! 1
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