mawkij Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 its almost 72 days since she broke up with me....I admit I feel much better now....but I also need to admit that I send her regular letters every week and she never answers ....nor she blocks me ...I tried to cover all sides and make all promises and reminded her of every good moment we had together....I thought these weekly letters would be nice and wont pressure her....I just cant understand why she don't answer at all.....I want to talk to her want to know her real reasons.....she did not say anything logic when she broke up out of the blue...my letters are so emotional and heart felt,,,,won't she even pity me and answer>>?..I admit am ready to let her go...but I feel she is so hurt and her parents has pushed her and am sure of that 100 percent ...I donno if I should keep sending this weekly hearty letters or should I send a last letter telling her am fed up with her silence....or should I just let go the one true love I ever had that lasted almost 3 yrs!
Simon Phoenix Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 Stop sending letters. That's way too clingy and weird and off-putting. Stop doing that and leave her be.
Bfef Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 Yeah, best thing now is to start thinking of yourself and of moving on. Try to begin the "No Contact" thing and ease off the letters. It's hard I know, the temptation to contact the ex is difficult but the best way for yourself is to go no contact. You will then be able to concentrate on bettering yourself and before you know it you'll be over it all. But never forget the lessons you learned, they'll be useful in the future!
FancyFace Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 OP, honey, leave your ex alone! It is over, and it has been over for a while now. All you are doing now is hurting yourself and prolonging the pain. In these past 72 days you could have done a whole lot to assist you with moving on, instead of trying to raise your Lazarus relationship from the dead. The first step to healing is acceptance, accept that it is over and stop contacting her. Move on with your life as she clearly has. You sending her letters which keep going unanswered is probably creeping her out or if she is the mean type, she might be laughing at them with her friends. Love and respect yourself enough to know when to throw in the towel, and right now is that time. 1
quattrob Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 TC, you are digging your hole deeper and deeper by sending constant "letters". It's been over 2 months now, she broke up with you. SHE doesn't want to be with you. Get that into your head. What makes you think that just by sending love letters that that would change her mind? She already knows you love her and all that jazz. But yet she STILL chose not to be with you. Please stop what you're doing, you're only pushing her even further away and hurting yourself. It's time to face the simple truth, it's over and she doesn't want to be with you. Sorry to sound harsh but reading your post makes me feel you need this wake up call. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 She doesn't answer you because she doesn't have any more answers then the vague ones she already gave you. Love & heartache are not logical. At this point she also doesn't answer because you are still sending her letters which she thinks are creepy & that you are weird & clingy. If they are filled with emotion you are turning her off even more & making her happy that she made the decision to end your relationship. Stop sending the letters. She probably sees they are from you & just throws them out. You are wasting your time. Sorry. She's not blocking you or responding directly because she is fundamentally a nice, kind person who doesn't like confrontation. She doesn't want to be the source of your pain even though she doesn't want to date you anymore. It's easier & less painful for her to simply ignore you & hope you will eventually go away. You will start to heal when you stop hanging on. She's not coming back. Let her go. The sooner you start having no contact with her == block all social media, delete her phone # & e-mail, stop sending letters == the sooner you will start to heal.
mightycpa Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 She drops hints to you every week. Take one of them. Let it go without another word. She broke up with you.
Toodaloo Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 OP seriously if it helps write the letters but don't send them. Just throw them away. You want her to pity you??? Seriously?? Come on - stand on your feet and grow a pair! This is really drippy behaviour. She may have broken up with you but now she is probably dreading her weekly reminder that she was ever with you! Stop it. You will get over her far quicker if you do. 2
mightycpa Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 She may have broken up with you but now she is probably dreading her weekly reminder that she was ever with you! I was going to mention that she probably doesn't even read the letters. I wouldn't want to cringe every week, and that's what these kinds of letters would make me do. So no need for a farewell letter... it probably won't even get read. Use a postcard instead, if you must. Maybe a nice picture of you waving goodbye.
Toodaloo Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 I was going to mention that she probably doesn't even read the letters. I wouldn't want to cringe every week, and that's what these kinds of letters would make me do. So no need for a farewell letter... it probably won't even get read. Use a postcard instead, if you must. Maybe a nice picture of you waving goodbye. Oh no!!! Don't encourage more! Not even a post card! 3 months of mindless drivel is really quite enough now. This whole thing actually makes me feel *shivers*... dirty. My stalker did stuff like this... are you a stalker OP? You do realise that she may just hand them straight over to the police don't you? No? Come on then stop sending dripsey letters, do what ever it is you do to get over it and go find someone else. Preferably one who likes poetry and love letters. 2
mightycpa Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 Oh no!!! Don't encourage more! Not even a post card! 3 months of mindless drivel is really quite enough now. No, huh? :lmao::lmao: I was being tongue in cheek, but upon further consideration, you're right, this is no place for that. Listen to Toodaloo. 1
Toodaloo Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 I was being tongue in cheek, but upon further consideration, you're right, this is no place for that... ... not when they might take you seriously its not... Is there a violently vomiting smiley somewhere? This one does not demonstrate the forcefulness of my reaction.
gnick Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 There's no doubt you should stop sending the letters but I can emphasize with you. I did basically the same thin with text and emails Trying to find out why we couldn't atleast be friendly. What she should do is send you one last letter telling you she will not be responding any more and then maybe give you a short simple nice explaination. Unfortunately some people deal with problems by pretending they don't exist. Think about how ****ty she is treating you now.get mad and use your anger to knock her off the pedistal
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