Mark1 Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 So this girl starts talking to me in lecture, really nice and friendly. She even moved a few seats closer to me so we could talk. She laughs a lot when I tease/flirt w her. Over the last few days she has: -Asked me for my number -Say we should study together -Say we should go to dinner together and try a new restaurant in the area -Asked me for my snapchat/fb/instagram -Guessed my birthday/told me some astrology crap So at this point I’m thinking she’s into me, right? Unfortunately, in conversation she’s mentioned she has a boyfriend and lives with him, and even said to me going out to dinner is “platonic.” We have been texting for the past hour. What the hell? Am I crazy for thinking I received mixed signals?
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 Either looking to be friends, or maybe even a fling. Hard to say.
LostOnes05 Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 She said she has a boyfriend...don't get too involved. 1
Larry56 Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 Haha, Just because she 'has' a boyfriend doesn't mean she isn't available. Just see what happens when you start flirting with her (do it through text) and see how she responds. She's on the hunt for a new man and your her target.
SycamoreCircle Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 No, no, no. Ignore the last post. Do you want to be on LS two weeks from now with the following post? Hey guys, I met this girl who left her boyfriend for me. Things were great at first but now she's telling me she's in love with her boyfriend. I don't understand. Women like this are bad news. No girl, with a boyfriend, cozies up to a guy to be friends. I know it's difficult but resist hanging out with this girl. A lot of people will be hurt in the process. You can be friendly and make jokes with her, but don't take it past that. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 All of the things she said / did are things friends do. She point blank said she wants platonic. It's not a mixed signal. She is clear. You are reading the signals the way you want; not the way she's sending them.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 Just because she has a BF doesn't mean you can't make a move. I'm a firm believer that the person in the relationship is the only person at fault when it comes to cheating -- they need to control their OWN inhibitions, its not the other person's responsibility. Now if the couple in question are friends of yours - that's a different story. If you think she's serious about Platonic - well there you go. Question answered. You can pursue her or leave her be. Make a choice.
Zzyxx Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 As an adult woman who dates other women, let me tell you this girl is bad news for you. Any female of a certain age and life experience knows that when she does certain things signals will get mixed and assumptions will be made. If she truly wanted to make sure you knew it was platonic before hand she would have let you know she had a boyfriend right away. She probably likes the attention or wants a fling. If you're down to be a side piece, up for a fling, or want to get your head messed with then go for it, but that's all you're gonna get. 1
Author Mark1 Posted February 19, 2015 Author Posted February 19, 2015 I'm just looking for a fling. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 I'm just looking for a fling. Go for it man! All the signals are there. The only sign she doesn't want a fling is her words - but I always say actions speak louder than words lol.
Author Mark1 Posted February 19, 2015 Author Posted February 19, 2015 Unfortunately she's not 21 -drinks would be a good idea to get handsy/flirty. And she said she doesn't drink to much. And she lives with her boyfriend, and I share a room w my roommate
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 Unfortunately she's not 21 -drinks would be a good idea to get handsy/flirty. And she said she doesn't drink to much. And she lives with her boyfriend, and I share a room w my roommate Hmm that complicates things. Could always get a bottle of cheap wine and have her come over to study =P lol
d0nnivain Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 I'm just looking for a fling. She's not your girl. Move on.
preraph Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 If she was up for a fling, she would never have used the word "platonic." That was very deliberate. It wasn't meant to leave you guessing or hoping. 1
Author Mark1 Posted February 22, 2015 Author Posted February 22, 2015 If she was up for a fling, she would never have used the word "platonic." That was very deliberate. It wasn't meant to leave you guessing or hoping. then she shouldn't be asking me for my fb, instagram etc
Belle88 Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 I don't know if she was purposely sending signals. I went finished in my mid 20s so I had friends of both genders that were my age and older and I did have male friends that I did get together with for study sessions, or lunches, or talked to. She could either be looking for a friend or maybe is looking for something else but I'm more inclined to believe it's a friends thing.
preraph Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 then she shouldn't be asking me for my fb, instagram etc Why, because you're unable to just be friends or classmates with a girl?
mightycpa Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 (edited) All of the things she said / did are things friends do. She point blank said she wants platonic. It's not a mixed signal. She is clear. You are reading the signals the way you want; not the way she's sending them. Yeah, but they aren't friends. That's pretty forward for a new acquaintance, don't you think? And to get technical, she said the dinner meet was platonic. I think she's fishing. EDIT: Plus, at college, it is the right time and the right place for her to move on. I think she's fishing, or at the very least, that's the way he's telling it. Edited February 22, 2015 by mightycpa
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