Hija77 Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 My ex and I broke up in November, and we've been NC ever since. Last week his little brother called asking if I wanted to hang out. I was very close with my ex's family, but hadn't really spoken to them since the break up, either. It wasn't that I didn't want to communicate with them, but that I knew it would be too hard...and also dangerous for me when NC was still relatively fresh. Anyway, I hung out with little brother, and things were fine. We didn't speak about my ex at all. It was a little uncomfortable at times. I think this is because although the situation has changed, we still relate to each other in the same way. Has anyone been through this before? Is it ok to still see your ex's family members? Have I broken NC by doing so? I'm not trying to get my ex back. It's f#####g over, for real. Do I have to break up with his family for keeps, too? Advice, suggestions?
erklat Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Your relationship with them should be cordial at best.
preraph Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 Just tell him it wouldn't be appropriate. Because it wouldn't be.
mightycpa Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 It is difficult. Right now, he's probably sensitive to the difficulty, but in time, he will become less sensitized to it, probably much quicker than you. That's when the little anecdotes will come out, or the news, or whatever sets you back. Tell him you really like him, but until you're over the brother, getting away means getting away from him too... nothing personal. You'll have to adjust that message to his age. I remember my ex's father explaining in great detail why he didn't like his daughter's new behavior. Not only did I have to tell him to stop talking about it, I had to tell him why. They mean well, but they don't feel it.
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