Ingram Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 I have met this girl on facebook last year. She was an old friend from high school and I was so glad to find her again (actually she added me), because we live in different continent. We talked to each other a lot, almost everyday. She is the kind of girl who is very easily getting depressed , also complains about lots of things in her life, her work, her family. And I listen to her carefully and provide comfort and sympathize as she needed. This girl also sent me a lot of her selfie pictures. After a couple months texting, Skype to each other everyday, I started to have a feeling for her. Before telling her I like her I asked her whether or not she had a boyfriend to avoid unnecessary drama, and she said no. There is also a guy who is really closed to her, and she told me he was only a friend. She also told me she cared about me. One day, I could not go to her facebook page and figure out she blocked me for no reason. Later on, I found out that she has dated that guy for over a year, so apparently she was not honest with me, and I felt terrible at that time, and I had a feeling that she only used me to getting comfort when she got trouble with her relationship. When I confronted her about her lying, she denied it and I was mad, decided NC for 1 months. After that, we resume communication, then she added me to her facebook again. And I assumed she had a breakup with her boyfriend. One day I told her I love her, she did not say anything, then about 3 days later she told me she is not going to used facebook anymore , and wanted us to use only Skype to contact. However I grow suspicious and figured out that she had blocked me from her facebook again, after posting a picture of her and her boyfriend together on the wall (that same dude ). I was upset but decide to remained chill this time and I still kept talking to her until last week. Last Monday, when I told her , "I have a feeling of an unrequited love between us" . I also asked her about her feeling for me. She told me "she does not care about that "unrequited love" and it is my own decision to continue it with her or not". I was mad with her response so I shoot her two lengthy and bitter emails. This time I am really tired of her selfishness and dishonesty. I have a feeling she only wants attention and care from me and use me as an emotional tampon. So please give me advice. I am feeling so lost now
LivinDeadGrl Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Don't waste another minute of your time on her. She was using you as an emotional dumpster while she fought with her boyfriend. She has lied to you more than once. Not to mention her boyfriend probably has no idea she has been chatting to and Skyping with another guy. Would you really want her to be your girlfriend anyway if this is how she deals with relationship problems? Running to other men for comfort? She isn't a friend at all, run away and don't look back.
marcelo.santos Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 I have a feeling she only wants attention and care from me and use me as an emotional tampon. Yes, probably! I Agree. Block her and forget her - you are a lucky guy as you have no serious relationship with this selfish girl. Now is a good time to change the strategy for the next girl: is ok to use facebook to find someone and start talking, but do not invest so many time in someone that you need to drive more than a hour to be at her home.
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