neowulf Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 I don't think these things are applied in as black and white manner IRL as they appear when put into bullet point form though. Generally I would be looking for a consistent pattern of behaviour in that kind of thing. In the communication aspect you highlighted for example. Sure people do have different communication styles, but if there is going to be any compatibility in the longterm you have to find a way to make them mesh on some level. A bit of give and take on both sides. When I wrote that down I was referencing a relationship in which my partner would literally get up from a conversation and go sit on the balcony or hours refusing to even look or talk to me at all. And sometimes this would carry on for days. It wasn't a just needing to be in his man cave for a while to think things over. It was a full blown punishment/reward silent treatment cycle, which is different to a mismatch in communication styles. It's just hard to get that across when you are mentally checking off all the things that have ruined relationships in the past. And it's also difficult to come up with examples that accurately portray what you mean without writing a life history to accompany it. Well I appreciate you taking the time to try and clarify. You're right, these things are far more complex when you attempt to apply them to the real world. I wasn't meaning to come off as attacking your perspective. Part of the great joy of this place is gaining an understanding of others perspectives.
Buddhist Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 No offense taken, my online communications style isn't great and it usually comes across a lot more aggressive than I intend.
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