bohica Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 I am wondering about this and what others thought.... This applies to getting to know someone. Personally, I don't become facebook friends with someone I am interested in. However, when you see someone post personal opinions about certain topics or makes negative comments about a certain group of people or behaviors does it reveal there true self or is this just attention getting? I saw someone post something that I found surprising. I never post personal opinions about people or groups and would never state any negative feelings toward people. Actually, even if I had them I wouldn't. I thought I had known this person as a kind, gentle, spiritual person with a big heart. She recently posted a rather childish negative comment about a group of people and there behaviors. It occurred to me that maybe I don't know this person OR they are unknowingly revealing there true self. Thoughts ? typo in title...
rester Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 I haven't had any experience with people that I know posting negative things about anyone or anything, but to answer the question about social media showing someone's true self, I have found the opposite. It's the reason I haven't logged onto facebook in almost a year. Some very good friends of mine that I know quite well have almost a completely different personality on facebook. It appears they are being who they would LIKE to be in front of all the people from their past that they have on their friends list. It's disturbing to me. I wish these friends of mine would either keep to themselves or at least like themselves enough to show their true selves, but I suppose that's not what people want out of facebook and other social media.
Author bohica Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 (edited) I haven't had any experience with people that I know posting negative things about anyone or anything, but to answer the question about social media showing someone's true self, I have found the opposite. It's the reason I haven't logged onto facebook in almost a year. Some very good friends of mine that I know quite well have almost a completely different personality on facebook. It appears they are being who they would LIKE to be in front of all the people from their past that they have on their friends list. It's disturbing to me. I wish these friends of mine would either keep to themselves or at least like themselves enough to show their true selves, but I suppose that's not what people want out of facebook and other social media. So you think you get a FALSE sense of who someone is, there moral compass, beliefs, and opinions ? I'd like to think that is true. In my case this girl, who I considered asking out in the past, seemed in real life to be the type never to speak negatively about a group of people, to judge people, and seemed to be a very open minded person. Surprising to see that she did. She made fun of a group of peoples hair, clothes, and behaviors. She didn't seem like the type. I almost commented on it...... Edited February 18, 2015 by bohica
littlesister1234 Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 I knew a woman like this. She would be a completely different person on Facebook than she was in real life. She would always talk about her marriage and how she was on the edge of divorce, thinking about cheating on her husband, and other stuff like that. Then online, she would always talk about how perfect her marriage was and how she would thank the Lord every Sunday at church for how wonderful he was. She never posted anything negative online, but she did say all these things to get attention. I think to some point all of us are a little fake online. Some are just more extreme more than others for different motives (getting attention, trying to make others jealous etc.) If it really bothers you this much, then ask her what it was about.
rester Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 So you think you get a FALSE sense of who someone is, there moral compass, beliefs, and opinions ? I'd like to think that is true. In my case this girl, who I considered asking out in the past, seemed in real life to be the type never to speak negatively about a group of people, to judge people, and seemed to be a very open minded person. Surprising to see that she did. She made fun of a group of peoples hair, clothes, and behaviors. She didn't seem like the type. I almost commented on it...... Well, in this case you probably got a sense of who she really is, unfortunately. I wouldn't associate with someone that would openly make fun of a group of people like that. It's probably that you don't know her as well as you thought you did.
Author bohica Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 If it really bothers you this much, then ask her what it was about. Nah..I don't think that would be appropriate or very productive. I don't think it's my position to tell her I am surprised to see her comments and why.
Author bohica Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 Well, in this case you probably got a sense of who she really is, unfortunately. I wouldn't associate with someone that would openly make fun of a group of people like that. It's probably that you don't know her as well as you thought you did. It wasn't anyone in particular she commented on. It was a general statement. It was....all you men with this type of hair and this type of dress, you do this....etc..
preraph Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Social media gives you the ability to let people know only the good things about yourself. On the good side, you may see the creative side of people up front. On the other hand, until you see what they really look like and how they behave, its' just words and blah, blah, blah.
Author bohica Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 Social media gives you the ability to let people know only the good things about yourself. On the good side, you may see the creative side of people up front. On the other hand, until you see what they really look like and how they behave, its' just words and blah, blah, blah. I've experienced this person in face to face, spent some quality time one on one and in a group. That's the contrasting point... You think you know someone and then on social media they say things and behave in a way that seems in direct contrast to the person who you thought they were. In my case, is the person revealing there true self on the social media platform.
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