Popsicle Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 That sucks! Not only does he do it by text but ignores you after >_< Saying that.. I got dumped by text once and I didn't bother replying. He texted me the next day saying "You're not even going to reply to me?" I ignore. Then a week later he texted me again saying, "I don't understand why you can't reply to me..." I ignore again. Such a waste of time... I know, good grief. What do they expect, for you to humilate yourself even more? It's like getting dumped (by text at that) was not enough. 1
ZiggyZoo Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 My ex dumped me in a text...after 7 years. Ha! I was crushed, and honestly had no idea what it meant. It was vague, and he didn't say he wanted to break up, he said he wanted a break. I was too stupid to realize what that meant, but needless to say, I never heard from him again. Breaking up with someone via text hurts the person being dumped, but man it sure is a bad look for the one doing the dumping. Unfortunately, I'd say his actions robbed me of the last bit of respect I had left for him. After all of those years, that is truly, truly sad. The happy memories are gone. All I remember is the callous way he left. BUT, at least I can say I came out of the break up looking like a total champ. You want your power back? Go NC. Don't dog him to people you know. Don't give him any ammunition to justify what he did. Let him look back someday and see what a jerk he was. When that day comes, you'll be a shiny penny, and he'll be green and covered in gum. Let him live with the regret. At his age, he ought to be ashamed of himself. Don't forget, breaking up with you in a text says absolutely NOTHING about you, but speaks volumes about the kind of guy your ex is. He couldn't even face you. So lame. Good luck!! YES!!!! This attitude right here is what keeps me together and stops me when I want to fire off a nasty e-mail to my ex or call him and yell. Both his other significant relationships were with a chick who was bat sh*t crazy and the other was a druggie. He did the same sort of thing to them, just up and left. Well, I'm not going to let his conscience off the hook with any sort of behavior that will justify what he did. I was open, honest, and understanding the whole time. And I've called him ONCE, to see if he was interested in an update on our baby (oh yeah, I'm also pregnant by him). I haven't called since, or made any other attempt to contact him. No way is he going to have any reason to feel anything other than like the turd he is. This is by far the best revenge. And WE can look at ourselves and know that we behaved with dignity. 1
NopeNah Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Watch the video in my sig.. I know it's a dude dressed as a grandma but the wisdom in what he saying is brilliant haha. I had never seen that before...Thanks! 1
batt Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Yup, and that bitch deserves every "unfair" thing life has given her and will continue to give her.
quattrob Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 I got dumped over the phone and that felt disrespectful and selfish. She out of town for 6 months and she couldn't wait till she came back to tell me. That just shows you how selfish she is. So I can only imagine how bad it would be over text. To me, anything but face to face break up is so bad. It tells you that you shouldn't even consider to reconcile with this person.
No Limit Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Don't let a text get you down. Text breakups show you the true colors of the dumper. If anything, you should be thinking "Was I drunk the entire relationship?" 1
mightycpa Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Well, I would think that the only suitable reply would be Who is this? 3
devilish innocent Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 I was going to say what a jerk he was until I read your other posts. That does change the perspective of things quite a bit. I think this part of the reason that going no contact is a good idea. In your mind, you were starting to believe that it wasn't really over. Then, boom, all it takes is one text message to put you back in your place. I hope you have a speedy recovery.
writergal Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 Well, I would think that the only suitable reply would be 1+! That is an comeback. If the person tries to date you virtually, they'll dump you the same way. I really hate the way technology has ruined people's manners where dating is concerned. Now people can dump you via email, text, IM, Facebook, the phone (ok that's not a new technology), Twitter, Instagram, Reddit, and pretty much every social media platform that exists. It's scary how impersonal people have become with the advent of technology at their fingertips. People have become ghosts in the machine, data chips inside the matrix. Neo, save us!! 1
mightycpa Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 1+! That is an comeback. a 1+! wow, the plus and a bang (computer talk for !)... that is definitely a superlative. thank you, writergal. I suppose that it is predictable that as new and impersonal ways of communicating are created, people can neglect to consider how it will be received on the other end. Similarly, receivers tend to impose their own tone to the message, and unfortunately, the ability to send messages has advanced more rapidly than the ability of two people to communicate difficult topics... like breaking up. Back in the day, you had to call somebody and arrange to meet them at a particular place or a particular time. The only other options were to write a letter or to leave a message on the answering machine. You never knew who was going to listen to that, so generally, you just didn't. Letters were reserved for urgent situations. An eye-to-eye breakup is very difficult, but it's the only way I've ever known to be worthy of the occasion. 1
dontexpect Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 I'll just have to share this. I got broken up thrice by the same person through a text message. To be fair, the last time we broke up she also texted me that I was really great and fun and sweet and that she just needs time and space. I thought it was just "it's not you, it's me" crap. I actually don't know what to believe anymore. I'm sorry you had to go through this.
Elle1975 Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 I have always thought that breaking up with someone was best done on a Friday after work.. or at least that's how I would like to be broken with.. give me time to get back on my feet. As for the text.. I don't think I would reply. Give them the opportunity to text me again "did you get my text" haha
alphamale Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 I have always thought that breaking up with someone was best done on a Friday after work.. or at least that's how I would like to be broken with.. give me time to get back on my feet. OR the weekend could give enough time to arm yourself to the teeth and then take revenge on monday
bubbaganoosh Posted February 22, 2015 Posted February 22, 2015 Had a girl break up with me like that. Now were talking back in the mid 60's. We didn't have text. The texts were a piece of paper written by hand and folded up in a way that it looked like a triangle. Well I was handed one. It said "Bubbaganoosh this is to let you know that I'm breaking up with you. Sorry." My best friend saw it when I got it and after we both read it I noticed that she was across the hall in the other classroom watching so we did what was appropriate for the disrespect. We folded it back up and and played desk football with it. My best friend used his two hands and with his fingers made what looked like goal posts and we each got three shots to see how many we can make. Then it was my turn to make the goal posts. She saw what happened and I was going to make sure she didn't get any satisfaction with her gutless note.
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