unforgotten Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 So...If you were cheated on and the gf/bf ends up with the one she/he cheated you with and has a family and kids and everything... Now what I wonder is when is their anniversary? They met and got together when you two were still together. If the person has at least a little conscience (since they cheated I guess they don't) it must be quite a painful reminder for their anniversaries each year of what a ****ty character they are. And it must be really fun answering to the questions "how did you two meet?" specially when a question comes from your own kid. A special kind of hell for the rest of your life don't you think?
Ruby65 Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 If they stay together and have a family, I'd assume their anniversary would be the day they get married. I recently saw a couple interviewed on tv who said something like "we were both in other relationships when we met"..... like they laugh it off or minimize the relationships they were in. To them, what they had was destined to be. (Barf.) I'm constantly amazed at the way cheaters can rationalize what they've done!
jus d'orange Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Well yeah, I can't imagine that cheating is a good start to the relationship, and I would certainly distrust somebody who was cheating on someone else with me once I were in a new relationship with them. But people DO meet while they're in another relationship. This is a bit of a grey zone, because you can't forbid somebody from meeting other people, and when people get out of bad relationships and into a good relationship with someone they met during the end of the bad relationship, that doesn't mean that they're cheaters, per se.
Ruby65 Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 But people DO meet while they're in another relationship. This is a bit of a grey zone' date=' because you can't forbid somebody from meeting other people, and when people get out of bad relationships and into a good relationship with someone they met during the end of the bad relationship, that doesn't mean that they're cheaters, per se.[/quote'] They admitted to each cheating on their former spouses with each other, each coming from longterm marriages with kids. They then both got divorces and got married to each other. Again: barf. I agree, I'd never trust someone who was cheating on their partner to be with me. It's like they say -- if they'll cheat with you, they'll cheat on you.
central Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Cheaters sometimes prosper. That's life. They'll have an anniversary, and revise history to tell the story they want to tell. As for the ex? Why would they care now?
erklat Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 No. They will not remember you in any meaningful way after that much time. You will learn how your relationship was meaningless in the greater scheme of things. And that feeling will be mutual.
jus d'orange Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 They admitted to each cheating on their former spouses with each other, each coming from longterm marriages with kids. They then both got divorces and got married to each other. Again: barf. I agree, I'd never trust someone who was cheating on their partner to be with me. It's like they say -- if they'll cheat with you, they'll cheat on you. Well yeah, that's pretty morally awful, then. I am sure that cheaters can reform, especially if it was part of a maturation process, but I certainly would be distrustful of someone who cheated on instinct, especially if they cheated with me to start. I suppose I just wouldn't put myself in that situation anyway, or would try to get out of it as soon as I found out.
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