Aguardiente83 Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 I've been doing a kind of NC for the past week with my ex. I don't call her or e-mail her or anything. She's the one that always calls me and sometimes when she calls I don't answer, do you think that she's expecting me to call back because she called me? for example, Today she called me at 2:30 before she went into work and I didn't pick up. I'm thinking she got out of work and saw that I didn't call her back so she decided not to call me. Should I just wait around for her to call me, even though she might not for a while cuz she thinks its messed up I haven't returned her calls, or should I call her? I already know what you guys are gonna say, "stay true to NC, don't call her and this and that", But i just wanna make sure
eastern_mystique Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 I think it's okay to answer calls from your ex, as long as you're not the one contacting them. If you want to get in touch with her, I'd leave it a couple of days and see if she tries calling again, and if she doesn't then call her. I suppose if she had something really important to say she would have left a message on your phone - so, she was probably just checking up on you, or to say hi or something. At least she's calling you so that's something, right?
Marshbear Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 I take it from your comments that she was the one who broke up with you. If this is the case she is probably just trying to keep in touch with you to ease the pain of her own guilt. The NC is usually a good way to see if someone really wants to get back with you. Usually though if someone makes the decision to break-up then they are ready to move on and you should do the same. If it is love then it will endure. If not then it will fall apart. If she calls you less and less over time then you know your answer. Don't hang on to hope. What was the reason for the break-up? Think about if she is really worthy of you or if you are just lonely and missing her. How did she treat you? How did you treat her? Don't beg and pled because it will just drive her away more. Accept her decision and find someone who really wants to be with you....
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