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Okay, this thread is made with the intention of providing some insight into the female mind and what goes through her head when assessing men. Keep it fun, make it humourous if you want to, that would be good. But keep it in the spirit of helping a guy out to make sense of this mysterious attraction thing.

 

Here's how to play. Either use this vid or find your own featuring several different guys. Then provide your analysis on how you assess each of these guys for sexual attraction and why. Try to pick a range of guys with various looks and levels of physical attractiveness, even if they aren't personally your type.

 

 

I picked this vid because I love this song. But also because it features a good mix of guys of differing looks and ethnic origin.

 

Lenny Kravitz on drums - The guy if given the choice I would be most likely to have sex with. Why? Because he's got rhythm and focus and soft eyes. You can tell by looking at him that he would be a long slow sexer with loads of intensity. The kind of sex face that doesn't make you want to laugh but orgasm and he would be paying attention to what he's doing. He's measured, into it and caring about what he's doing. He isn't getting distracted by the hot chick prancing in from of him, but by the activity he's absorbed in.

 

Ashton Kutcher on guitar - Although he's got some talent, he appears inhibited. He's constantly looking down at his hands while he's playing to make sure he's not making any mistakes and as a result looks wooden and a bit uncomfortable. He would give you a decent time but be a bit awkward and apologetic while he's at it.

 

Hipster on double base - the guy second most likely to get sex from me. Why? Because while his physical appearance is really at odds with my preferences his attitude is awesome. Look at him, he's fondling a big voluptuous object and he's really in the moment. He's not consciously thinking about what he's doing, he's just feeling it and being intuitive. You can tell that playing this instrument is his great love and he enjoys what he does with it. Not only that but he's rocking his look, which is not to everyone's taste but he's confident with it anyway. Who knew a pasty redhead could rock dreads? This guy would know how to bring your body alive in the bedroom and he wouldn't ruin it with second guessing or the need for your constant validation. He would just know what turns you on and get on with, finding his pleasure in making you move.

 

Jon Snow tied up in the corner and on harmonica. Pretty to look at but I suspect lazy in bed. He spends the whole video making flattering angles into the camera. The kind of guy that lays on his back and gives you a come hither look as if to say.....well I'm cute so take your pleasure and I might, if you are lucky, give you a moan at the end. Yeah not sexy at all. He's very passive and crap with an instrument too. His rocking-out doesn't match the music timing so here is a guy out of step with those around him. He probably only picked it up to bring the camera back to him again.

 

Tough Guy upside down. I can't even. First of all his appearance is really off-putting I just can't get a horn over big brauny guys to begin with. Then there's that whole issue with his fashion sense. A big lump of flesh really. He doesn't give us any hints into his personality because I suspect his personality consists of....well I'm big and strong and chicks dig that. Guy's

I rather affectionately call testosterone monsters. He's probably there because he tried to snatch her handbag on the street.

 

Shia LeBeouf in the apple crate. Look at me fashion, coupled with boyish charm and a bit of cockiness. But we can see he's all bluff. He needs a younger woman because he would be lost at sea with a more mature one. The kind of guy who would airpunch when he orgasms and btw have no idea where you are at in that scenario because he's focused so hard on lasting and performing. He has okay intentions and probably not the worst guy in the world but little things go to his head and he's easily distracted. I mean, she managed to entrance him with a bottle of mineral water for gods sake! I get the impression he'd be 'in love' with anything presently playing with the little solider. She's pouring cold water on him because that's probably what he's used to after he's used cheesy pickup lines at the bar.

 

Riddick in the chair. At first he's digging the situation, probably thinking to himself that some kind of kinky sex play is about to go down. Damn! He loves that about women, they're so mysterious and hot, and he's only too happy to be resourceful, making stuff out of old car parts and being generally quite cool. He's patient, he can chill and just enjoy the ambience happy to let her explore her sexuality on her own terms and he'll be the chilvalrous guy who's only be too glad to participate in whatever bad stuff she's got going on. Oh! Hang on a minute, this isn't some kind of kinky fantasy, she actually wants to hold him to account on something. Bad situation, time to get resourceful and get the hell out of there.

 

Geek in the net. This guy is clearly hapless and clueless. He can't even struggle with any kind of conviction, and he gives up shortly after trying. He's probably spending the rest of the video frantically texting romantic calculus to the slightly above average girl in science class he worships, hoping she'll come rescue him. This is the guy that buys oversized teddy bears and gives them to fully grown adult women. I think he bumped into the hot girl and she thought he'd need a ride home but had to put him somewhere safe so he didn't hurt himself. He's clearly not a romantic interest and she might have even forgotten he was even there since he is so easily resigned to his fate as baggage.

 

Kinky guy strapped to the floor with duct tape. I'm all up for various flavours of bent. But if your idea of kinky is actually spending hours hogtied while I berate you with verbal abuse.....not so much. You see, there's just no payoff in you being fully emasculated like that. It reeks of mother issues, childhood trauma and a base desire to return to the womb. Not images I want to be confronted with when seeking sex. I can play Donna Matrix if you're into that, but I prefer it if you don a leather collar, let me strap one of your arms to the bedpost and pleasure you to the point of climax, over and over before you finally can't take it anymore, flip me over and take your release. It's all about give and take in those kinds of games.

 

Manly alpha in the cage. He's manly, he's an alpha you can tell because he stares at people in uncomfortable ways and expects chicks to just flock to him. Consequently she's not into it and neither am I. Posturing and expecting the world to just follow your lead are pretty boring and usually mean I will have to just gratefully accept whatever it is you consider to be good sex. Because women just don't know their own minds right? Good thing you guys are on the planet to instruct us all in our own preferences. :sick: Now go back to being an irrelevant extra with not much air time at least Jon Snow is better to look at.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fmTKcyp7tmo

 

 

i picked this video because adam levine wetn around to all these different weddings to make their day.....unpaid..watch it ...it is so cute..........made him really tired.....but he still did it.....the lyrics are sweet the message is there.....as far as getting hot on guys....not happening for me at all from watching a video but the thought of someone giving up days to make someone elses wedding day really special is a guy who would have my heart for keeps....deb

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This is exactly why its so hard for men to get a date. Because women see a perception of what they think men are. A woman should have a clean slate when she meets a guy. Not visions and romantic thoughts about what she thinks he is based on his look.

 

I've said it time and time again. Most women have these preconceived notions in their head. They conjure up a perception of a guy. Its why one woman falls head over heels for some bad boy, and her friends see him as a bum with no job.

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This is exactly why its so hard for men to get a date. Because women see a perception of what they think men are. A woman should have a clean slate when she meets a guy. Not visions and romantic thoughts about what she thinks he is based on his look.

 

I've said it time and time again. Most women have these preconceived notions in their head. They conjure up a perception of a guy. Its why one woman falls head over heels for some bad boy, and her friends see him as a bum with no job.

 

Attraction happens when people watch other people first and foremost. That's what draws someone in, in order to then get to know the real individual. So please don't try and tell me that guys approach all women with absolutely no fantasy about who he thinks she is and without any reaction at all to what she looks like. Relationships the world over are a testament to that just not being true.

 

If you read any of my post you would also discover that I am analysing mostly how he moves, what he does and acts like. Everyone, without exception does that when they first meet other people. Romantic interest or not. If we all had to wait until we absolutely knew everything about the other person before even bothering to date then you guys would really be in trouble.

 

If I was analysing based on looks alone, I would have said....Well that Jon Snow guy was hot, forget the others.

 

Mostly I started this thread because I thought it might be a fun way for us to kind of give insight into the kinds of things we think about when talking about attraction. Not that I see a guy in the distance for 5 mins and seriously think I know everything about him. Lighten up.

 

It's not so hard for guys to get a date btw, plenty of guys the world over are dating and having relationships. The human race is not on the verge of extinction because guys can't get a date. Some guys find it hard to get a date because they are chronic complainers, lack a sense of humour, and want to argue about their victimhood every chance they get. Seriously, who wants to be around that?

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Doesnt matter if the guy is a complainer or not. She already made up he mind with her perception of him before they met, and now she can spend years trying to fix him.

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Doesnt matter if the guy is a complainer or not. She already made up he mind with her perception of him before they met, and now she can spend years trying to fix him.

 

I think missing the point might actually be a hidden talent of yours. :laugh:

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What about proper grammar?

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What about proper grammar?

 

what about a point to a comment.....or content or actual substance.....deb

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What about proper grammar?

 

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This male brain / female brain stereotyping isn't helpful IMO.

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Liam Neeson.

 

I just love the way that man moves.

 

To me he just says inner strength and confidence. His posture and demeanor just scream "I don't need to be anyone other than who I am". He is relaxed, secure and confident in himself and its very sexy. Far more so than some who are more muscular or have prettier features

 

He is not overly muscular, face isn't what we all are lead to believe is all that handsome but... mmmm

 

Morgan Freeman, Clint Eastwood and Denzil Washington all have the same "thing" going on.

 

Its my "thing"... When I meet a man who has that, it just "has" me every single time. Weird as it sounds when I meet a man like that I just want to smell and taste them! :laugh:

 

But that is personal preference. Each to their own. I know some women who look at me as though I am mad...

 

Just as a side note... I don't go around sniffing and licking strange men!!! :D

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This male brain / female brain stereotyping isn't helpful IMO.

 

Its not really is it as we are all different... But hey ho... at least I can sit thinking about perverse things with Liam Neeson for 10 minutes now!

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Buddhist: You little fraud :) I clicked on that link thinking I would get to see some hot Lenny Kravitz!

 

Toodaloo: Good thing we aren't in the same city cause we would fight over the same men lol. Liam Neeson embodies confidence and sexiness!

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Liam Neeson.

 

I just love the way that man moves.

 

To me he just says inner strength and confidence. His posture and demeanor just scream "I don't need to be anyone other than who I am". He is relaxed, secure and confident in himself and its very sexy. Far more so than some who are more muscular or have prettier features

 

He is not overly muscular, face isn't what we all are lead to believe is all that handsome but... mmmm

 

Morgan Freeman, Clint Eastwood and Denzil Washington all have the same "thing" going on.

 

Its my "thing"... When I meet a man who has that, it just "has" me every single time. Weird as it sounds when I meet a man like that I just want to smell and taste them! :laugh:

 

But that is personal preference. Each to their own. I know some women who look at me as though I am mad...

 

Just as a side note... I don't go around sniffing and licking strange men!!! :D

 

lol....lickin strange men......yep ....might be awkward...i do understand the movement thing...deb

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Buddhist: You little fraud :) I clicked on that link thinking I would get to see some hot Lenny Kravitz! Thank goodness - I did think I was a bit out of it and needed to get with the script as I was sure he didn't look like that!!!

 

Toodaloo: Good thing we aren't in the same city cause we would fight over the same men lol. Liam Neeson embodies confidence and sexiness!

 

Even more reason for me to start running again!!! :D

 

Liam is about the only famous person I could actually drool over with out getting to know him! He is just... scrumptious.

 

Brad, George etc can all sit looking pretty because they just do not have what Liam has and by God has he got it in spades...

 

So Deb it is socially acceptable to just go round sniffing them as long as I refrain from licking them??? :laugh:

 

I bet Liam smells of a mix between Oak trees and musk... Mmmmm...

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Liam Neeson.

 

I just love the way that man moves.

 

To me he just says inner strength and confidence. His posture and demeanor just scream "I don't need to be anyone other than who I am". He is relaxed, secure and confident in himself and its very sexy. Far more so than some who are more muscular or have prettier features

 

He is not overly muscular, face isn't what we all are lead to believe is all that handsome but... mmmm

 

Morgan Freeman, Clint Eastwood and Denzil Washington all have the same "thing" going on.

 

Its my "thing"... When I meet a man who has that, it just "has" me every single time. Weird as it sounds when I meet a man like that I just want to smell and taste them! :laugh:

 

But that is personal preference. Each to their own. I know some women who look at me as though I am mad...

 

Just as a side note... I don't go around sniffing and licking strange men!!! :D

 

Mmmm mmmm mmm that Denzel!

In his younger day - man, I thought he was the most beautiful man ever!!

But I do agree with you on the "thing"

He's got a presence. Confidence, charm, humor, ugh!...wowza...mmmm, mmmm, mmmmmm is all I gots to say ;):love:

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Mmmm mmmm mmm that Denzel!

In his younger day - man, I thought he was the most beautiful man ever!!

But I do agree with you on the "thing"

He's got a presence. Confidence, charm, humor, ugh!...wowza...mmmm, mmmm, mmmmmm is all I gots to say ;):love:

 

What can I say? I clearly have superb taste in men! :D

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Here's how it is: If a guy is famous and good looking, for women throwing themselves on him (which is routine), he will put forth no effort and accept the BJ. For anyone he feels he either might actually like or knows that they are plugged in and know people, he will be the best lover there is in order to maintain his image.

 

So in summary, kiddies, really good looking nonfamous men - lazy in bed.

Really good looking famous or even locally famous men - Great in bed when they want to be; otherwise just accepting free bj's.

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I had a reaction to the "you're" in the subject title.

 

 

Really, what I can't assess a person too well based on the visual. A writing sample would help.

 

 

I'll try though.

 

When I think of sexy, I think.... Mark Sheppard. He does it the most, I think.

 

Joshua Jackson, but his character in Fringe is coloring it, I'm sure.

 

Sir Patrick Stewart! I would do things to that man that are illegal in the more civilized countries. Mmm. Now, granted, his public persona plays a big role.

 

I think Sendhil Ramamurthy looks almost perfect like artwork, but it's not quite attraction as recognition. Though, maybe if he was in person. I don't know.

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