LuvCupid007 Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Hi, A little over a week ago, I left my bf's house because I asked him to go pick up some food with me (as a way of hanging out) but he said he was hungry too but too tired., and that I should pick up the food and comeback or order in. Annoyed by this (since he's been preoccupied with work lately and neglecting me a bit), I told him that I'm going home to to study instead and that I'll talk to him whenever. He texted me and was angry, accusing me of abandoning him and that I shouldn't get mad over something like that. I told him I wasn't, but the conversation ended with him pretty much saying "good luck with your homework, do what you want..." I was pretty mad he accused me of being a bad gf so I too said something along the line of "fine". I didn't take it that we were broken up. Fast forward 8 days later, he texted me that he would appreciated it if I would delete his pictures from my phone . I am confused why he would be concerned about some pictures, especially they were never on social media. I haven't responded back and I'm at lost what I should do next. Can you help me?
seminoles84 Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 How can we help? Sounds like you two need to communicate better. How old are you guys?
Author LuvCupid007 Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 (edited) Yes, we definitely need to communicate better. However, based on his last communication (after not speaking for a week) I cant determine if he's breaking up up or thats his angry way of getting my attention? Edited February 18, 2015 by LuvCupid007
Mi7522 Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Pretty simple tell him you deleted the pictures. Whether you do or not is your decision
Author LuvCupid007 Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 Thank you for your reply. But what will that achieve? It's seems that respond may communicate I'm respecting his request but doesn't that also say I have no interest in working things out?
Mi7522 Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 All you're doing is what he asked of you. What does it have to do with working things out?
Author LuvCupid007 Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 (edited) Ok, but I didn't respond, so wouldn't it be weird to say "ok I did" after 3 days? I guess my original question was what was the point in him texting me such a silly thing in the first place? Edited February 18, 2015 by LuvCupid007
Mi7522 Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Yes very weird especially after 3 days. If he asks, which I'm sure he will, just tell him it's done. That's all
The Poster Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Personally, I think he said that as a way to get to you. He's probably just as confused as you are about what's happening. I think both of you are waiting for the other to make the first move back to each other and he was getting frustrated so he came up with some random thing to text you that might make you panic. Telling you to delete the pictures will get a rise out of you, and it did, as you are now here asking for advice. I think you need to communicate with each other. Find out what exactly is going on and see where you stand. Good luck.
Mi7522 Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 He's asking because he wants a reason to communicate with you. He'll find a reason to talk to you, so just be polite and short. Don't ask questions let him initiate conversation
Author LuvCupid007 Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 Thank you, I was told this forum is a great community of people who care for others, and its right. Like I mentioned, I haven't responded to him, and now it would be weird to respond. Would it be crazy to wait longer and see if he initiate another contact?
The Poster Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Thank you, I was told this forum is a great community of people who care for others, and its right. Like I mentioned, I haven't responded to him, and now it would be weird to respond. Would it be crazy to wait longer and see if he initiate another contact? What exactly is it that you want? Do you want to be with him?
Author LuvCupid007 Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 I do, but I'm confused because it sounded like he wants to break up with me and therefore, I should let the dust settle. Also, I'm afraid he's still angry as I am emotional, so contacting him may trigger unwanted respond
jus d'orange Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Breakups shouldn't be unclear like this. They're usually pretty unclear, but they do need to include phrases like "it's over," "I don't want this anymore," "I'm breaking up with you," etc. If you guys are broken up, he has to say so. Make sure to remain calm, but talk to him. Find out what's wrong. If he doesn't want the relationship anymore, he has to say so directly, and if that's the case, you should respect the decision, keep your dignity together, and simply walk away and start no contact. Good luck.
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