Need your opinion of this letter from ex G/F is it really over 4 good ??

[Vavso]

I will leave blanks where names go to give some confidentiality I am going on 5 days of no contact Tell me am I s I dead in the water or a backup plan.? Am I reading some good where there is none. I need a fresh opinion I dont believe its totally over by some words she says like right now, At this point etc This all stems from me failing to commit to her and her kids I loved them all very much but was still hurting from a divorce so was suffering commitment issues .I only wish I could commit to her and her kids before it may be too late .when I gaThanks all

 

hi your letter was to say the least pretty wonderful, the only thing is it's soooo late..right now I can not even think in that mode..you pushed me far away from it I am sorry..I am dating a nice person and I like him and our relationship... at this point I am not at all giving that up. I need you to except this... I will not ..again go into what I though we had or wanted but now maybe its all too late... I am sure you understand I have zero faith in you .. are a nice person and never change in that way but I know I want much more than you would ever want to be involved with and truth...I don't believe you...i needed a friend you were NEVER there...how can that be different??? you couldn't do it with X , Y , me who else? its not you...not terrible but not for me for the future....you were all wrong about me i am a really good ,,nice, loving ,sharing, caring person and i want all of that back to me and my family. thats all i ever wanted and you couldn't do it and i don't ,today, believe you can do it..I just don't..you never have..maybe this X with no kids is good for you...I want to be happy and I am ,more than I have been in 2 years and I hope you can be too.. MY NAME WAS HERE .I am simple..you are too complicated with so little responsibility I do not get it but my kids are very important to me and there is no one in my life except you who ever made me feel bad about that...I am sorry but I know it won't work enjoy this X..I will always be okay I will always be okay ya know always your friend mich really always your friend

 

 

Thanks for reading it

[Fifth Dawn]

Well, in the letter's opening sentence, she made it pretty obvious that it's too late. Also, she is dating someone else and is happy with him, so I would have to say that it's time to accept your loss and move on.

 

How long have you been split up? I'm guessing five days since you mentioned that you haven't had any contact with her for five days. Well, if this is the case, it's pretty messed up of her to jump from you and onto someone else in such a short time period. So, apparantly, you must have not been that significant to her.

 

Hang on to your pride and hold your head high. There are so many single individuals out there that don't have excess baggage. Hook yourself one!

 

F-Dawn

[simon_uk]

Hi Vavso. i am so sorry to hear of your problem. To be honest my situation is'very' similar and my ex also said it is 'too late' and that she doesnt have faith in me also. There is no way to convince your ex otherwise I am afraid. She just wont believe you no matter what you say. I have tried and she said no. Basically I have got accept that for the time being and I think you do too. It is heartbreaking I know but honestly your words will not be enough. The only slim chance you have is to let her 'see' the change, dont ask me how, I am working on that myself. I pray it is not too late for you and me too. But i just dont know how to go about making a difference now. The letter from your ex is almost identical to things my ex said except for he other man but I wouldnt be surprised if that were the case also.

 

Try to be strong and positive.

 

Simon