Shaun777 Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 I know of a situation where a man dumped a woman because he knew the relationship was over because she was flirting and seeing another man behind his back. He dumped her because he knew she was on the brink of dumping him. She kept him around as a back up until she knew for certain that she would be able to move on if things worked out with the new guy. My question is even if you dumped her first but she had intentions of leaving you anyway, in this situation who would be considered dumped? I feel that if she already was planning to be with someone else then she might have dumped the man long before he actually said the words. This happened to a friend of mine, and he said she eventually told him that she was seeing the guy behind his back but didn't have sex yet. She was confused and was trying to figure things out, and she only wanted time away from him to sort things out. She told him that since he dumped her she was now free to sleep with the other man. The same man she was seeing while she was in a relationship with my friend. My friend asked me if I considered him the dumper or dumpee? Since she had already started moving on, but never divulged her true intentions. I don't know how to answer this question, I was hoping someone here might be able to shed some light on this subject. Who is the dumper and who is the dumpee in this case?
mightycpa Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 One of my GF's cheated on me, I found out and ended the RS. I always considered it as if she dumped me, even though I broke it off.
Author Shaun777 Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 A similar thing happened to me sometime ago, my attitude was..."does it really matter?"
Ieris Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 I would say your friend is the dumpee even though he ended it, because she forced his hand.
Author Shaun777 Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 I told him he was better off without her, if she can be seeing another man behind your back then she's not a woman of high integrity. It's better he found that out now than later.
mightycpa Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 She told him that since he dumped her she was now free to sleep with the other man. This provides a pretty telling insight into her character. I guess she was dating him, but not banging him yet? Like a cheater-lite? Were they exclusive?
Author Shaun777 Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 He doesn't know, he believes she was banging him or at least foreplay. She started being cold to him and making excuses not to see my friend when he tried to set dates. She did confess to having sex with the new guy after my friend dumped her. The funny thing about this situation is she broke up with her boyfriend from long ago and ended up with my friend. And now she is doing the same thing to my friend. She met my friend when he use to go to her house and fix her computer. Her boyfriend at the time was suspicious of her friendship with my friend, I guess he was right. She was with my friend for at least 5 years and she bought a house. She met a contractor who came to her house to fix her heating system, and was telling my friend how nice he was. He use to call me and tell me he was uncomfortable with her praising this contractor. The contractor convinced her to go out with him and now she's with him. I told my friend that this is the type of woman she is, and she will eventually get rid of the new guy (contractor) for the next shinny boy-toy. My friend is 54 years old and this woman is 55, the contractor is 66 years old. This woman is not a pretty woman, yet he says she's awesome in bed. You would think this type of thing only happens to young people.
mightycpa Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 I guess he had no idea he was a vine that made housecalls. Well, I guess the good news is that by the age of 50, women know how to **** real good. If she's not that good looking, he shouldn't have any problems replacing her. I'm convinced that a lot of people stay young on the inside, and the older you get, the less you try to impress other people.
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