pjm123 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 She wouldn't sleep with me And would make use like saying had to go home take off makeup andsee her gma. She seems to like me because she always responda to me, answers my calls and does everything else just about except sex. She told me she wants to take it slow and she wouldn't promise it that night. I read online i was supposed tell her we arent haven sex or we shouldn't do this? Also she never initiates contact so i have a date tomorrow night with her to play pool. How can i get her back and sleep with her? Also how do u get a girl to initate contact? Its been a while for me i just started getting cocky and confident alot better thanks to this site i just need more push or advice. I make fun of her sometimes i go along with her obviously in bed it seem like she had upper hand so i need to know what should i do? I see-call her bout twice a wk? Also she told me only mostly been with jerks and nothing long term but when she found out they were married or had gf she wouldnt see them anymore. Also i know she has interest most of the texts have smileys she flirtsshes always available, and shes accepting of accident, comes out to see me and never ends the phone calls i even heard beeping on her end like someone calling her. How shouls i proceed thanks!
spiderowl Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 She doesn't want to rush into sex with you because she probably thinks you are only interested in her for sex. As you've mentioned it several times, she might well be right. If you are looking for a relationship, then treat her with respect, enjoy her company and I'm sure you two will work something out when you are both ready. If you are looking for sex but not a longer-term relationship, then maybe you'd best look elsewhere because she wants to take it slow and get to know you before getting involved physically. 1
Buddhist Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 (edited) By taking your focus off the sex for 5mins. She's told you, she's gotten into situations that looked like relationships but really were dicks trying to wet their end and use her. Can you not see why she is unwilling to rush into sex with any future guy? She is testing you to see if there is any attraction beyond your hormonal need to get off. Judging by this post, there probably isn't so she is a smart girl and you need to move on. If you want to game someone pick a less intelligent & more desperate female and join the ranks of guys who screw it up for everyone else by being dicks. Edited February 18, 2015 by Buddhist 3
Author pjm123 Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 I never said i didnt want relationship i like her enjoy her company attracted to her she responsive very well i just need to know if she will evetually be sexy with me? I took her decent dinner got her flower and candy and im decent to her.
Author pjm123 Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 Okay well i was told if she dont sleep with me on 4th date which is tomorrow then she is prude or doesnt like me or will try to play me. What can i do to be in control?
Gloria25 Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Okay well i was told if she dont sleep with me on 4th date which is tomorrow then she is prude or doesnt like me or will try to play me. What can i do to be in control? Oh wow, You know you probably, like 99.9% blew your chances for a RL, sex, or even being in the same room again with her? Right?
Author pjm123 Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 How? Because im trying to be cautious and not be used or played anymore?
Author pjm123 Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 I like the person and want a relationship but because of my past situations ive been in was hurt and used and i dont want that to happen anymore.
Satu Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Okay well i was told if she dont sleep with me on 4th date which is tomorrow then she is prude or doesnt like me or will try to play me. *What can i do to be in control? *The only thing you can be in control of is yourself. But hey, that's a good thing
Author pjm123 Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 Just dont see it im a good guy and dont wanna be played anymore.
SunnySide0418 Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 You don't want to be played? It's called dating my friend.
Author pjm123 Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 Okay ive been lot of crap in my relationships i dont deserve to be manipulated or used i want a lady to respect me and we get along and have love together. I think thats fair i treat her good she treat me good you know?
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Sex and relationships aren't supposed to be about control. They're supposed to be about being on the same level, both physically and emotionally. You and this girl obviously are not there yet and until she feels that you are, she is NOT going to have sex with you. Plain and simple. If you try to push it, it'll probably never happen. 1
johndo1984 Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Okay ive been lot of crap in my relationships i dont deserve to be manipulated or used i want a lady to respect me and we get along and have love together. I think thats fair i treat her good she treat me good you know? Are you with her for sex? If you are, go around the corner of the street. You want a lady to respect you? How about you respect her when she refuse to.have sex w you or taking her time. You just thinking treat her good and you expect more from.her ( ex sex). Give me a break. Your a joke
johndo1984 Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Okay well i was told if she dont sleep with me on 4th date which is tomorrow then she is prude or doesnt like me or will try to play me. What can i do to be in control? Are you saying any girl been w you on a 4th date has to sleep w you? Is that the requirements? Is she you wife? Is that her duties to sleep w you on the 4th date?Wow what a low life. I wish she leave your ass asap.. she doesn't need you, your not all that. She can do better without you. She need a man not a pimp.
Buddhist Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 Okay well i was told if she dont sleep with me on 4th date which is tomorrow then she is prude or doesnt like me or will try to play me. What can i do to be in control? I get your desire to not be played, everyone does that. If a relationship is all about getting the upper hand, keeping partners at an emotional distance in case we get hurt and needing validation on demand then guess what? It isn't a relationship, it's a mutable admiration and ego-stroking exercise. Is she a potential gf, or a trained dog jumping through hoops to pass your tests?
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