mysteryscape Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Saw somebody for the first time last weekend, connected online. A couple of hours together walking and dinner, seemed to go well. She went for the hug at the end, then we both went for a brief kiss -- not a makeout session, but a nice meeting of the lips -- not something that always happens by any means. Exchanged emails the next day, I suggested seeing each other again for a specific activity. Three days have gone by, no response. Seems like some hesitation on her part, at the least. I'm used to dating flakiness, especially online, but this has me a bit puzzled. Any ideas what to make of it?
oberkeat Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Kissing means nothing. Making out means nothing. For some people, even sex means nothing. It's a mistake to assume that just because you've done these things with a date, especially someone you just met, it means there's long term relationship potential. If she hasn't got back to you by now, forget her and date other girls.
Author mysteryscape Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 If she hasn't got back to you by now, forget her and date other girls. You may be right. But as for dating "other girls" we are both people well into middle age. If that makes any difference.
trolloperative Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 She's not interested. You may be right. But as for dating "other girls" we are both people well into middle age. If that makes any difference. Age makes no difference. 1
oberkeat Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 You may be right. But as for dating "other girls" we are both people well into middle age. If that makes any difference. "Girl," "woman", "female", whatever word you want to use. She isn't interested. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 It's odd she let you kiss her - usually a girl wouldn't do that unless she felt a second date was in order. That being said, she probably isn't interested - move on.
Author mysteryscape Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 It's odd she let you kiss her - usually a girl wouldn't do that unless she felt a second date was in order. That is what puzzles me. It wasn't forced and for me at least it was more than nice.
smackie9 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 She kissed you to show her appreciation for a nice time and can mean nothing more than that. Just remember most people who do online dating, date multiples. She probably ended up on a different date with someone she was attracted to more. lots of people rather ghost on ya instead of verbally turn you down.
trolloperative Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Why not just ask her? She's a grown woman afterall... 'Haven't heard back, how is your week going?'
Author mysteryscape Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 She kissed you to show her appreciation for a nice time and can mean nothing more than that. Just remember most people who do online dating, date multiples. She probably ended up on a different date with someone she was attracted to more. lots of people rather ghost on ya instead of verbally turn you down. to all of that!
Buddhist Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 You may be right. But as for dating "other girls" we are both people well into middle age. If that makes any difference. It's either. - She just not that into you. The Kiss wasn't passionate, it was a friendsy kiss. - She's immature and is playing the 'don't text back within the first 72hrs and seem too eager' game. Either way, it wouldn't be my choice of partner to be honest. You've put it out there, made it clear that you are interested. If she's not responding move on.
Author mysteryscape Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 Why not just ask her? She's a grown woman afterall... 'Haven't heard back, how is your week going?' Have thought of that and may do it. But she knows very well that I sent her a message saying I'd like to see her again, to which she knows I'm waiting for a reply. She's gone silent for a reason and if she wants to get in contact again, she will. The "puzzle" is probably something I would not want to hear the explanation to. The smooch though I really don't get. To me it is leading me on. I have learned not to do that with people. I also someone I'm not interested if they've expressed interest in seeing me and I don't reciprocate. I get it about "poof" -- it's happened often enough, and I used to do it when I was way younger -- but it still seems rude and immature.
neowulf Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Some people feel the "kiss test" is a great way to check for basic physical chemistry. She liked you enough to kiss you, but after, decided she just didn't feel much of a response to it. It happens man. Next!
CrystalShine2011 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 If you've already checked in, and she hasn't gotten back with you - most likely she is seeing someone else and clicked.
Mizz Layta Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 She is just not that into you.there is plenty of fish in he sea
Author mysteryscape Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 The fourth day after my last email. She definitely wants to see me again but I don't get the idea she is in any rush and I get the idea she is telling me not to get any ideas too soon. I get the idea I'm one in her pack or would-be pack that she'd like to keep until she finds someone she really likes. The multi-dating thing that bugs me so much about OLD. Though willy-nilly I've started doing it myself. I don't like it and when and if someone really interesting comes along, it's going to be a problem.
Author mysteryscape Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 So glad I'm married........ Yeah this "dating" these days is about as romantic as the corner meat market.
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