lillyanne12 Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 Ok, this may seem silly but I just need a quick opinion here on a little situation. See what you think: I was recently out one day at a bar- invited to meet up with a friend of mine who invited me there to meet some people, for a corporate event for another company I don't work for- and have a drink. I'm sitting there and about an hour later, I hear this guy's voice call my name, so I turn to look and it's an old co-worker of mine from a different city, that I used to work with 6 years ago who recognized me. So I get up to give him a hug and he's like" Wow, you're hot, my friends and I were checking you out, gosh how are you.. " blah blah. It turns out he's working for this company and he asked me if I was going to apply for a job. (I look the same as I did by the way 6 years ago if this helps) So he seemed kinda shy, maybe shocked as I was that we meet up years later in a completely different city in a small bar. I didn't really know him(call him Mike) Mike very well, but I knew we'd passed each other in the hallways in the past etc. He was Always sweet to me, saying hi as he passed by in the hallway- and that's it. I think he was shy, and I wasn't even attracted to him back then-but seeing him now I was like- gosh! He was really really cute! Well, Mike and I talked, caught up for about 10 minutes, and I sort of had toleave with my friends, so I gave Mike a hug, and then asked for his business card. He gave it to me-and That's it. I did the dumbest thing and didn't give him my number right then. A week later, I applied for a job within his company and called him leaving a message saying I was applying, etc. Saying he didn't have to call me back. I figured we'd see each other again within our group of friends. Well, I got an interview, and didn't get the job. I emailed him to let him know and that we should do lunch. He emails me back the next business morning first thing (like 8:30am) to my surprise to send his regards, and to apologize for not calling me back he was out sick. Said he could definately do lunch the following week with me since he had to work alot this week. He didn't leave me his personal number to reach him at, but maybe it's because we didn't have that close of a friendship 6 years ago? So I only have his work number which I originally contacted him at. I was surprised he emailed me back so quickly-and was eager to go out to lunch with me. I feel like he wants me to chase after him, which I hate to chase after guys. So how should I handle this- I already emailed him saying all is good for lunch next week but do I wait for his call or just follow up by email? I was the one who said we should do lunch and he agreed right away but is it cool for me to ask a guy out? I feel silly since I never thought I'd see him again and I'm attracted to him- I mean, it's weird how things turn out and I'm kinda nervous to see him. Do you think he's interested and too shy to call me- I left him my phone number by email? If he thinks I'm hot- then why doesn't he call me right away? What's up with men? What's his deal? Well,
Pocky Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 If you don't hear from him by Wednesday, send him an email and ask him if he's still interested in getting lunch. If he doesn't reply then there's no questions - he's not interested. If he does, meet him for lunch and see how things go.
Linlin Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 Take it from me...the email thing sucks. I think if they are really intersted, they call. Otherwise they hide behind the email. You may wan to send him one more like Pocy said and then from that point on get him to talk to you on the phone if you can. I don't know what is up with me. See my rant posted a couple below.
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