freetolove Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I recently met someone online, we were chatting for several days and met, very strong physical chemistry and just got along really well. Next day, he text me saying that he was afraid that I was going to hurt him so he didn't want to see me again. I was a bit heart broken because I really liked him. I told him we could take it slow. We planned a second date and it was just to meet for coffee. He cancels in the morning but I told him I was disappointed. He ended up planning a really nice romantic date. I make suggestions for a third date and he agreed but I decided to call if off because he acting distant. He thanked me to not pressuring him. I was really sad but didn't bug him but he then decides to like almost every facebook update on my page. I told him we can be friends. I really like his guy and don't want to pressure him but I'm confused about his intentions...
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Sounds like he has issues he needs to work on. Just let him go there are better guys out there who won't play games with you. 2
preraph Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 He ponied up and told you he was afraid you were going to hurt him. So ask him, Hey, you said you were afraid I was going to hurt you. Could you elaborate and tell me why you think that? Make him tell you why. If he hadn't said that, I would be thinking he had erectile dysfunction. He opened that subject, so you're entitled to get to the bottom of it and find out if that's all in his head and he is anxious or if it's something you said or did.
oberkeat Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Sounds like he has issues he needs to work on. You're right about that. And what kind of man would say something like that? He sounds like some angsty little high school boy. 1
todreaminblue Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 he sounds young minded....i think he needs a lot of time he may have been hurt in the past in a relationship and i dont feel he is near ready to be in another relationship....best wishes....deb
Elias33 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 You're right about that. And what kind of man would say something like that? He sounds like some angsty little high school boy. I think it has nothing to do with being a man. People of both genders do this. But you are right however, the guy acts flaky and spells nothing but trouble. People that are afraid to date, should not date. Because it will hurt the other; they end up doing what they fear of having done to themselves. You can ask for an elaboration, but I don't think it will do any good. The issues stem solely from him, and there is nothing you can do about it. If he will not cancel on you now, he may well do so in the future when both parties are more invested. It just screams insecurity, which can be a tremendous challenge going into a potential relationship. It's a guy who simply doesn't want to take the risk that comes with dating. And you always want to be worth the risk.
Author freetolove Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 He did mentioned he was hurt in the past. But there's not much I can do. I really like him though but you guys/gals are right. It might be worst if I'm even more emotionally invested.=/ back in the dating pool =((( 1
Author freetolove Posted February 21, 2015 Author Posted February 21, 2015 I asked him to hang out this weekend but he just ignored me but he's still liking my posts. I'm going to give him some space, how much time should I give him before giving up?
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