Losther Posted April 4, 2005 Posted April 4, 2005 Hey, Ok how do you move on hoping that she will come back? I tlaked to a friend of of my ex and she says that if I give her space and deal w/ myself that she might change her mind. First I don't know if I beleive her. We have been broken up for 5 months dated for 7 lived together for 4 and she keeps telling me she's moved on. Won't take my calls and only e-mails when she needs soemthing. Her friend thinks that I shouldn't date just work on me and do my thing. Me on the other hand. I want to do NC, hook up w/ the baddest girl in my phonebook and call it a day and move on w/ my life. Not becasue I don't love her but becasue this had been the most painful 5 months of my life. I know I messed up but 5 months w/o speaking to someone and not even given you hope seems like a nail in the coffin. Any suggestions..
Tiger-Lily Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 Hi You need to stop listening to her friend and move on with your life. Start dating and enjoy a healthy social life. If your ex says that she has moved on, perhaps she has moved on and you should too. You can still be friends but don't open up yourself to any more rejection. Make use of your phone book - START DATING!
miggsbucks Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 Moving on, and hoping that someone will come back are two scenarios that cannot exist together at the same time. If you want to move on, you have to remove all hope of her coming back. You are wrong to seek the advice of one of her friends, as this person is not your friend, they are your ex’s friend. Your ex’s friend will have your ex’s interests at heart, not yours. This person may be more concerned with telling your ex about your plight which will give your ex an ego boost about you still pining for her. Do yourself a favour and move on properly, remove all hope. Do not reply to any more contact from her. She is only contacting you when she wants something, and you are always there for her (which is like the puppy-dog thing that is a big turn off anyway). And really 5 months.. come on its been 5 months, isn’t that telling you something. Think of it as you dumping her now, dumping the current type of relationship you have with her. When you find someone new who rocks your boat, which you will – you will wonder what all the fuss over your ex was about.
Author Losther Posted April 5, 2005 Author Posted April 5, 2005 Ok that's what I thought. The friend and I go to church together. And she seems to be honest enough, more like an older sister to both of us. But I'm a skeptical perosn so the doubt. On the other hand. I messed up really bad. And she says that I have to let her be upset and angry and see me making progess toward change. She says she still loves me but has lost confidence in me. I don't knwo as so many things have gone on. I am moving toward change for myslef but i's hard thinking about someone all the time. Those who say move one, so the length of the realitonship doesn't matter? thx.
tanbark813 Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 You won't be able to move on completely until you stop hoping for her to come back. Go rent Swingers and watch it if you haven't seen it already.
miggsbucks Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 no the length of the relationship does not matter, but 5 months apart, come on buddy, this is your life - dont waste it on someone who is a long shot, when there are plenty of dead-certs you could be concentrating on, hey tanbark what do you think of this:- my current dilemna lol
clone Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 Its been 4 months since me and my ex broke up and I constantly want to throw up all the time. Is that natural when u think about her cause it hurts so much. OH well i would say yea bro just get a new gilr cause 5 months with NC seems she is trying to move on. Not saying she wouldnt want to come back cause every person is diffrent and I have had friends get back together after a year of being apart but i would start looking outside the picture and move on.
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